life as I know

When the Ground Gives Way and Your World Collapses

2012-01-27T12:09:00.000-05:00

I was watching Grey's Anatomy one night and that's what Meredith was saying in her monologue. It was in reference to life in general, and marriage specifically. I felt it was a very appropriate metaphor. Most of the time your marriage is great, but occasionally there are those times when it feels like the earth is crumbling beneath your feet. What are you to do in these situations?

As many of you know I'm still pretty blissed out from my anniversary trip a few weeks ago. That being said I am not so wrapped up in my own joy that I can't see the marriages struggling around me. And trust me, I am in a fight for those marriages as if they were my own. I may only be a prayer warrior on the sideline in one case, and nagging little sister in the other, but I am there (no not literally), but if need be I will go to the mat with them, and for them. Check out my goals -->one of the top ones is to help keep marriages together. I kid you not, that is important to me, and I'm not the only one. Dee-Dee (part of the anniversary crew and founder of "I'm Every Woman") is hosting the annual marriage event and the focus this year is on couples who have overcome obstacles to stay together.

I want you to stay together because I don't believe in "irreconcilable differences". The term is actually loathsome to me. It is giving up plain and simple, you're tired of working, and that is the lazy persons way out. Nor do I care for the "I fell out of love with them" excuse. Say what?! That is malarky. What you fell out of was the habit of treating your partner special, pursuing them, aggressively going after what you desired. (We'll go into how to keep in fresh in future posts). Maybe you drank the "marriage is easy kool-aid" then found out it was a lie; too bad you made a commitment. Now if you've been a "Lifer" for a while you know the Hayes family motto -"Ain't nobody leaving nobody", and the exceptions to it, abuse, however outside those parameters, suck it up.

I was reading I Am Husband.com and I as I read I was in total agreement. (Confession time) I don't remember saying my vows, I don't know WHAT I said (the minister was late and I was seeing "red rum") but obviously I'm married as the witnesses can attest to. What I do know is that I meant to stay with my husband (not that we haven't had trying times), vows are a binding contract with your spouse; and when they (contracts) are breached mediation is usually par for the course, not out and out dissolution. Society must learn to again put value in a person's word being their bond. We must again hold our vows as a sincere promise that we are doggedly determined to keep, and not let divorce be an option we have sitting on the side.

So what do you do "When the Ground Gives Way and Your World Collapses"? Let's say there's infidelity, physical illness, trouble with the in-laws, fertility issues, mental illness, you get the idea....what do you do? First I would suggest you take a step back, breathe deeply and go to your separate corners. Space is good, I am still learning this. People need to process and every one of us does it in our own special way. So give each other some time to take in what is happening. Then I would suggest open, honest communication (preferably with a counselor of some sort). And most importantly take your time, no matter what you do, don't rush into making any decisions.

Couples can surmount any number of obstacles in their marriages, however a key factor in whether or not they succeed is how much they are willing to communicate with one another. We talk even when it hurts. I thank God everyday for my husband because he knows what he got himself into; eyes wide open he married me. I am also thankful for the good sense to walk to my corner sometimes and sit quietly until I can figure it out. We are imperfect beings in an imperfect world, but we are wholly committed to one another. I pray we can change the tide of marriages and there will be more life-long unions that our children can reference as they are preparing for their own unions. They will know it is not all sunshine and roses, but they will know to appreciate the rainbow after the storm.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Forgive Yourself

2012-01-20T11:07:00.000-05:00

Two thousand eleven was one heck of a year!! And I don't mean in a good way. My world was rocked in more ways than I ever care to experience again, and I'm still feeling aftershocks. Doubt, self-blame, anxiety, shame, anger, and a whole host of other emotions that I won't bother to list. All of that has brought me into two thousand twelve with some serious baggage I didn't realize I was carrying.

I'm a firm believer of confronting the emotions that are holding you back (in your own time - I really dislike confrontation), however there are occasions where you are just going about life (on auto-pilot) and don't recognize the fact that you aren't going anywhere. That's how I've been the past 6 months or so, and I just realized it last night (well maybe last week, but last night was the straw).

When I am stressed I have a tendency to eat; I become the Human Garbage Disposal. I eat late at night, what my kids don't finish on their plates, cookies, cake, ice cream, whatever is handy. It's a wonder I haven't gained more weight, but I'll just be thankful that I haven't.

Guilt. Yeah that's another one.

I digress, I've been eating like a cow (grazing) and occasionally guzzling, like last night. I can't even tell you what I did it was horrifying to myself. Suffice it to say I saw the light finally and know why I'm "killing myself" this way. Yeah I went there, because that is exactly what I'm doing. I don't workout...once every two months does not count, and I definitely could cook a little healthier. I'm carrying around the middle and that is dangerous, especially with my family history.

Absolution...I desire it, but not from the living, and the dead have nothing to give.

When one of my dad's died in June I felt bad, not that he was gone, we knew it was coming, and with a little advance notice I handle death pretty well. Why then was I so upset? Because I wish I had been a better daughter. My dad was sick, but I was angry with him (because he wasn't taking care of himself ironically) and I wouldn't talk to him. Thought about him all the time, but didn't go to great lengths to see or talk to him until he could no longer talk back. I went and sat with him at the hospital when he was in a coma and told him that I loved him, and I was sorry that my girls hadn't known him. I hoped he would get better, but the prognosis was never good, and I'm a realist when I have to be.

In November when one of my sister's passed I was devastated...utterly and completely. My husband, (thank God for him), carried me home and took care of me because I was unable to do so myself. She was 30 years old and I hardly knew her, which could be said for most of my siblings.

Split in two, I lay in pieces, the person I wanted to be, and who I really am. My husband carried me home and slowly, I began to heal. The scar is invisible because the wound is emotional. It exists nonetheless, a reminder of what I no longer desire to be. Incomplete, less than, detached...an island.

I don't make resolutions, people rarely stick to those. I made a goal to be a better "daughter-wife-mom-sister ... friend". I don't want to cry again because of all the things I didn't take time to do. From here on out my tears will be due to the memories that I shared with the ones I've lost, not the regrets I have for not making more time for them.

To move forward though, I must forgive myself - the dead give no absolution; and make amends with the living. I absolutely must make these changes or I will eat myself into an early grave, and I just told my husband I wanted to spend the next 50 years with him, and I would love to see grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren. That won't be possible if I don't take care of myself, and my emotional and mental health play a role in my overall longevity so I've got to get it together.

Forgive yourself. We are not perfect beings, but if we work earnestly, diligently and sincerely toward a goal, we can achieve it. Including seeking peace within.

Until Next Time,
Shanta

So This is What "Post-Racial" America Looks Like...

2012-01-09T10:46:00.000-05:00

In Georgia anyway.

This was the homework given to several third graders in Gwinnett County, GA. Yes, 8 year olds received this as an assignment last Wednesday (January 4, 2012). Welcome to the real world kiddos. There were also questions like "If Frederick received two beatings per day, how many did he get in one week? Two weeks?" Seriously?! And the teachers claimed to have been using it as a cross-curricular exercise. FAIL!!!

What's so "post-racial" about this?

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

We Had A Ball...Literally!!!

2012-01-06T18:39:00.002-05:00

Happy New Year Everyone!!!

I hope you all had a restful and relaxing holiday season, I certainly did. The beginning of winter and the holidays that accompany it always excite me for various reasons. My family is always together at this time, and my anniversary (New Year's Eve) is always cause for celebration. This past December 31, I celebrated 9 years of matrimony with my dear friend, and husband Mr. Hayes.

Surprises and I have a "Love/Hate" relationship, as in; I love surprises, but I hate waiting for them. Yes, yes I'm a grown woman, but I hold onto some of my childish ways. However I digress. Let me tell you what a wonderful husband I have. Not only did he plan a romantic weekend away for US, but he also coordinated it with two other couples whom we are friends with that have anniversaries the day before and after ours. Say what?! Yes, we have an #AnniversaryCrew.

These wonderful husbands of ours ~~plotted~~ planned a delightfully restful, and romantic weekend for us at the lovely Chateau Elan. (If you haven't been make plans to go). After I tell you about our weekend you'll want to head there straight away. First of all these men worked it, they arranged for all of our rooms to be together and for us ladies to have our spa services simultaneously, so that we could maximize our time together (don't get me wrong there was plenty of couple time), but we enjoyed each others company as well and celebrating our marriages.

We all arrived at the Inn on Thursday evening, the ladies having no clue where we were going, but having been given a short packing list, (evening wear, bathing suits, athletic wear, cute going out clothes, etc..) that could have been for honestly ANYWHERE. EverythingManHB said we (Dee-Dee and I) almost gave it away chattering on Facebook...no way! WE were totally blown away when we all arrived and saw each other, and the grins were PRICELESS :D There's nothing like spending time with people who value their relationships as much as you do. But the surprises don't end there. Over dinner they kept hinting at more..yes MORE.

Wine Cellar

Friday the gentleman had some golf instruction while we enjoyed massages and scrubs at the Spa (you have to go...really you should treat yourself to this experience at least once). After we came back from tea at the spa we dressed to go to, drumroll please... The Charlie Wilson and Kem concert, yeah ~~baby~~ l~~ove making~~ music at its best. We had a fantastic time, then to cap the night we went to our favorite late night spot and had a late supper and dessert (some had two desserts ;).

Ballroom

Breakfast caught us rolling in late (but that was a daily thing - I let Mr. Hayes sleep-in whenever he can). There was a wine tour on tap for the afternoon, but this was really just a leisurely day, because when the evening rolled around....there was The BALL! Yes, an honest to goodness masquerade ball. I told you we had a ball. Talk about some Cinderellas...take three Stay at Home Moms, and their prince charmings, ball included and you have a fairy tale. No, not at all this is our life, this is us being honored by the men who promised to do so. This is us celebrating our marriages, vowing to keep our families strong and together, and sharing in the promise that "Your Marriage is Important to Me".

Now don't think that I forgot Mr. Hayes. My gift just wasn't as big. I tend to go with traditional gifts and I was very happy with the one I found this year. For the ninth anniversary willow wood items are customary. Do you know what a willow tree looks like? Its the one with the long flowing branches (they honestly look like strands hanging off the tree), they blow in the wind; even with a gentle breeze. When I think of a Willow trees I imagine a strong trunk and deep roots with branches that just go with the ebb and flow, standards of a good marriage. "The roots are remarkable for their toughness, size, and tenacity to life..." A great marker for any relationship I'd say.

Once early in our marriage we had a scuff about something and a friend asked me "Does he still make your heart smile?" The answer--Yes, yes he did, and he still does. That has been my measuring stick for many a thing. But as I perused shops looking for the thing, I came across this...

from Appalachian Primitive on Etsy. That scripture pretty much sums it up. Accompanied with the family motto, and the smile question, it is all the affirmation of our marriage I need.

Needless to say, my gift was loved equally and will be with us for many, many decades to come, at least 5 more.

Marriage is absolutely important to me, and I'm making the sustaining of it a major part of platform this year. Expect to see more on love and marriage and how to keep it strong and together.

I'll post more pics soon.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Know YOUR Truth

2011-12-12T10:36:00.000-05:00

Sometimes it seems I can't win for losing, but that's the way it goes, however in some instances it's not really "losing" if you're comfortable with who you are.

I will no longer speak in riddles. Here it is. I have heard that I can "appear" unapproachable, as in I generally wear a scowl. This may very well be true, it is not because I am unfriendly though, it merely seems that way because I am constantly in a state of deep thought, or concentration trying to keep myself together. I can not change my face from unpleasant to cheery in a nanosecond like my middle child, (she's a master at it). It is also not easy for me to feign comfort when I obviously am not; it's like having trapped gas, it really hurts but you don't want anyone to know what's bothering you.

It occurred to me that while I am not unhappy, I could be more cheery, i.e. "not let the little things get under my skin so much" for these are the things that bring about the scowl. For example I shouldn't let the fact that my children rarely put their clothes away where they belong, or that they constantly stuff clean clothes in the hamper because they don't want to put them away in the proper place bother me. Neither should I be disgruntled by the fact that the children are having nosebleeds EVERYDAY because they turn the space heater up to the MAX at night, (all the while I'm trying to figure out where the humidifier is and why its so dry in the room to begin with). Nor should any concern be given to keeping a schedule, because its just bound to go sideways; so the calendar can just take a leap because finishing what's on today's list is NOT HAPPENING! Nope I shouldn't let ANY of these things bother me. But they do, and though I could see the benefits of changing my outward appearance to gain the friendship and admiration and love of more others, I am perfectly content with the friendships and love I have in my life right now.

Here is my truth. I don't feel I should have to put on a face to impress people. I am (for once in my life) happy with who I am. I am a kind, friendly, outgoing person and if you give me more than a cursory once-over you'll figure that out for yourself. People, just like books and food deserve to be given a try no matter what their appearance. You know the expressions "Don't judge a book by its cover" and one of my favorite food adages from Yo Gabba Gabba! "Try it, you'll like it!". Grown-ups should take this advice too. However, if you don't want to, Rhett Butler can sum it up for me. "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn".

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

Wordless Wednesday

2011-12-07T13:14:00.001-05:00

It's a new attitude...I'm looking UP!!

Liking what I see...When I look at ME!!

It's the holiday season and tis better to give than receive right? Well I've got a gift for my daughters. A mother that likes herself, the way she looks, but that is also committed to taking care of herself. When you think you're pretty who gives a fig what other people think. Love yourself ladies.

My Biological Clock is Ticking

2011-12-01T08:05:00.000-05:00

I'm not sure why this is happening since I have 3 children already, but it definitely is. The little Timex inside me has been going off at regular intervals for about the past year, and contrary to what my mind is thinking my uterus is LOUDER. I've had this topic in my queue for awhile, I'm writing about it today however because my body wouldn't let me rest until it was done (a subconscious message of sorts perhaps).

Every few months for the past year or so, I've had this strong urge to procreate, like a deep, deep desire in my uterus, (most would say "the pit of my stomach" or "my gut" -but that is not where babies come from), to have life inside me. Yet every time this little alarm would go off, my head would chime in "but now isn't a good time". I always tell people my body might be saying "yes", but I can talk myself out of having a baby in just a few seconds..."we need a bigger house, the girls are too old, I'm getting older, hubby's in school...." No need to go on you get the gist.

My situation has not been aided by my friends or family. I just came off a relaxing holiday where I got to hold my beautiful new little cousin. My sister and our cousin, both delivered healthy, precious little girls, one day apart, two months ago. Ahh...I could sit and look at those children all day, such good babies they are (they really are). I held KA and it felt like there was nothing else in the world; a nice feeling considering how my holiday started. Then let's figure, at least 3 of my girlfriends are pregnant. And I believe Addison "is in a family way" (yes a fictional character on a television show made my list).

Last night, when my body made its plea, I realized my mind is in compliance. None of the usual "justifications" for tabling the discussion came up, as a matter of fact, I talked myself into it: Yes, our daughters are 10, 8, and 5, and they have great spacing. This new addition would be 7 years younger than my youngest, but the girls will be older and more mature. We live comfortably in our home, one more wouldn't put us out, plus I grew up with my extended family living in one house, we were cozy but also close; (I love that about my family). I'm only 33, so I haven't reached my cutoff (35) just yet. Hubby will only be in school for 6 more months. These counter-arguments have always been there, been available to me, but I never wanted to use them.

Now though, I have the feeling that all my fence sitting has put my husband on the "it's not the right time" train. The ~~obstacle,~~ ~~challenge~~, matter at hand now is letting my husband know the desires of my heart. See I have to plan it just so. My fear now is that we won't be on the same page...I waited too long and now..."you snooze, you lose".

Until next time,
Be Blessed

The Silence is Most Disheartening

2011-11-14T00:18:00.001-05:00

Unless you live under a rock or in a cave, I'm sure you've heard the news from Happy Valley (ironic isn't it?). Though I'll not go into the details of it, if you haven't read the Grand Jury Report here is the link.

Over the past week, I was sickened from reading the allegations, but I had to do it, to educate myself, so I could better educate my children. Yes, I've talked to them about "good touch, bad touch", although I tell my girls no one should be touching them, outside a handshake and possibly a hug. Now they know how to play with kids, but no one's hands should be all over you, and nowhere near your private parts. However now, I've had to be VERY SPECIFIC about who "No one" is. In our house its nobody that isn't Mommy, Daddy (in emergencies) or Dr. D (and that's only with Mommy present).

More importantly I've found it is most important to arm them with a voice of reason, ME, letting them know they can tell us anything, even if "someone" tells them 'they won't believe you'.... THAT IS A LIE!! Tell me. Don't believe whatever "they" are trying to feed you, and if reason fails KRS..'kick, run, scream".

After I had these talks with my children I had to figure out why I was still so angry and hurt and sick. We hear about children being abused all the time, it is in the news and on television shows, we are inundated constantly with despairing news regarding the treatment of children. Essentially how children are being FAILED in this country. Not to say we are desensitized by it, but it is all to common.

I was sickened because people did NOTHING!!! People saw these ~~alleged~~ actions occurring and did NOTHING!!! You followed protocol and told your superior, (after discussing it with your father), but you DIDN'T STOP IT!! I am angry because a child was being hurt and people turned their backs, literally and figuratively. And in turning your back, you opened the door for MORE CHILDREN to be hurt.

My heart cried out, "WHY?" and I realized, people are afraid, and that is sad. Afraid to go against the hierarchy, afraid to jeopardize your chances at success and so you let a child suffer so that you would not be put out. This is absolutely shameful. As human beings we have to be better than a pack of baboons that would beat their young against the rocks.

Even still I was aching inside. "Why", you ask? Because I was afraid that I too would be AFRAID. Not afraid that I wouldn't act, but scared that I might be hurt. That is when I prayed. "Lord help us ALL be courageous, let ME not be afraid to do the right thing and stand up for all the children". I can not control anyone else's actions, but God can order my steps, I just have to listen and remember; "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."

We cannot let fear rule us, we must be COURAGEOUS!!

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Win a Family Four Pack of Tickets to "Arthur Christmas"

2011-11-13T14:22:00.010-05:00

So you've read that I was such a good girl that Santa left me a few gifts to share....Well guess what, I've got a few more!!!!

Sony Pictures and Aardman are releasing "Arthur Christmas" on November 23rd, but friends of "Life As I Know" in the Atlanta area can win passes to see it on November 19th. I've got 5 family four packs of tickets for my readers, and I can't wait to give them away.

That's right on Day 8 of the "12 Days of Arthur Christmas" you and yours can attend an advance screening of "Arthur Christmas" at Regal Mall of Georgia at 11:00AM.

You want those tickets right?

Well all you have to do is:

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

Win an Appointment with the Phipps Plaza Santa!!!

2011-11-10T00:30:00.003-05:00

Santa Claus is coming and he's bringing Arthur with him....

Sony Pictures Animation and Aardman’s ARTHUR CHRISTMAS is the new family animated comedy hitting theaters on November 23^rd. And since I was such a good girl this year, I've got gifts for all of you!!

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow! Bringing the spirit of the season early to Atlantans, Aardman and Sony Pictures Animation are hosting the "12 Days of Arthur Christmas" events throughout metro-Atlanta and I'm going to help them spread the love. It all starts with a Snow Celebration at Centennial Olympic Park on November 12th and ending with a Jingle Bell Rock Party at Atlantic Station on November 23rd. Guests will be ever filled with holiday cheer as they partake in the multitude of happenings around the city. An Army of Elves, meet and greet with Santa's reindeer, holiday lights at Lake Lanier and testing the ice at the igloo village at the Georgia Aquarium are just a few.

Ever wonder how Santa delivers 2 billion presents in one night? “Arthur Christmas” answers the question… The answer: Santa's exhilarating, ultra-high-tech operation hidden beneath the North Pole.

When this amazing operation misses one child out of hundreds of millions, Arthur, the least capable Claus, embarks on a hilarious, exciting rogue mission against the clock with his politically incorrect grandfather Grandsanta and a giftwrapping-obsessed elf named Bryony, to deliver the last present before Christmas morning dawns.

But before the film’s opening we're going to celebrate the 12 Days of ARTHUR CHRISTMAS in Atlanta! It's a whole host of activities to get the family out in the mood for Christmas, so Let's start with some SNOW!!!

Day 1, Saturday, November 12, 2011

Arthur Christmas is Coming to Town

Centennial Olympic Park

11:00AM-3:00PM

Join Arthur’s Army of Elves as they kick off the 12 Days of ARTHUR CHRISTMAS with fresh snow for free tubing, posing and playing in front of the Fountain of Rings. All who attend the free event can enter to win an appointment with the Phipps Plaza Santa. Open to the public.

"How do you get the appointment with Santa?" you ask...

Well be at Centennial Olympic park Saturday morning at 11:00AM and be the first person to tweet me www.twitter.com/slhayesdesigns, or check-in with me on Facebook. The earliest timestamp I see gets the appointment with the Phipps Santa!!!

Check www.12DaysOfArthurChristmas.com for a complete list and details of all the "12 Days of Arthur Christmas" activities.

Until Next Time,

Be Blessed

"I Am Not My Hair", but She Might Be

2011-11-07T09:23:00.000-05:00

I have been rocking my hair in a natural state for fifteen years. And I love it!!! I have shown you all pictures of me and my styles over the years, and its versatile and I love that freedom. That being said, the way I wear my hair is not for everyone.

The space I'm in now though is keeping that path with my girls. Each of them has their own texture different from mine and each other. My oldest has a fine texture, soft with a gentle, loose curl pattern. My youngest has soft, tight curls (makes for great puffs ;). Little Buddy has soft hair as well, but it sucks up oil, so her scalp is constantly dry, it is the kinkiest of us all, and she is tender-headed. These different textures have made it easier to style some heads than others. That being said, I have found myself in a bit of hot water regarding my middle childs' appearance.

Now mind you, hair is not the only issue I've been having with this child. She seemed to have a serious anxiety issue the past few weeks, but we thought it was attributed to all the testing they had been doing at school. However last weekend my baby girl told my father she didn't like the way she looked. (And truthfully it was time for her hair to be done). Just so you know my kid doesn't walk around looking like "Whodunnit" and "Whatfor" everyday.

At 8 I want my kid to just have fun and not be concerned with how she is looking, but then again, that's how I roll. "I am not my hair", so judge me on my character and my abilities, not how I look. Now this is not to say roll out the house in your pajamas with your head wrap on and go to the store; I just don't want you to tie-up your esteem with your appearance. Don't get me wrong, take care to show your best face, but let it be the face of your choosing. And maybe that was part of the problem, she had no choice.

So the meat of it is this: our Little Buddy was not feeling good about herself, and it had not even occurred to me that her hair was an issue. She is not me, so being kinky curly might not be for her. That being said, I was on the verge of texturizing my daughter's hair (again) to make it easier for me to style her, and make her pretty the way she wanted; BUT I did NOT!

I am a firm believer that one can have healthy, natural hair, that can be styled a myriad of ways, but maybe you should leave the styling to someone else. So that is what I have done. I am now outsourcing the haircare of my middle child to Selena Bell. She did a great job, and not one tear was shed..(oh yeah, there were tears and all kinds of drama when I did it). So as a sanity saver I have passed the buck, literally and figuratively to Selena to save my family. And yes, it really was that deep, if something wasn't done about Little Buddy's hair my family would have been in jeopardy.

My daughters hair is now done to her liking without all the ~~whining and~~, well without the usual fanfare. I realize that while I am not my hair, my eight year old may hold a very different opinion. And I'm okay with that, I just hope she grows up to love herself no matter what her hair is like.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed.

"Celebrating For A Cause"

2011-11-03T00:00:00.001-04:00

Do you know what it's like to have great friends that don't just think of themselves, or that don't think anything of helping you, or anyone else in need for that matter? Well I do. I have been blessed to meet and make friends with some pretty outstanding women, who do really great things, and my friend Dee-Dee Jackson is no exception.

Dee-Dee and her organization I'm Every Woman! are kicking off this fabulous season of love and giving by "Celebrating For A Cause".

"I'm Every Woman! Inc. is committed to doing all we can to end domestic violence, hunger in our elderly population, close the gap for families in need, and mentor our youth that need a second chance at success. Our first charity benefit on 11/19/11 will open the door for us to begin making a difference. We are asking our supporters and the community to join forces with us so we are united in our efforts. Together we can do more! We need your support!" - Dee-Dee Jackson, Founder and President

Don't you just love a good party? I certainly do, and my friend has never disappointed in putting together a great event. This one is sure to leave you with a warm tingly feeling because while you're having such an awesome time (with new and old friends alike), you'll also be contributing to some really great causes.

Take a moment to pop over to the site and see what they're all about. Make a contribution of support for the organization (it's a non-profit) or purchase your tickets for the event. Either way you're guaranteed to see a great organization doing good in the community so show your support and check out "Celebrating For A Cause".

Until next time,

Be Blessed

The Shit a Good Christian Woman Can't Say

2011-10-31T09:39:00.000-04:00

Take the title for example, that is ABSOLUTELY NOT something that any good, God-fearing woman should be going around saying. However God knows my heart, so he is aware of the fact that some people get on my last good nerve and the only way I can get over it is to CURSE (or cuss if you're the south) the HELL out of them. (Though you know I only curse in private - right). Seriously, why else irritate such a good upstanding woman as myself to the point that I can't even pray to ask for the right spirit to deal with you.

You are obviously unaware that many a good Christian woman has a razor-edged tongue that we pray constantly for God to bridle so that we might be good reflections of him. Sometimes though that prayer is uttered in repentance because we are human and we do fall (the key is in getting back up). Can you tell I haven't done my devotional this morning? Let me get to that now.

Dear God please forgive anyone that I have offended by my humanity. Amen.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

What Do Your Children Think of You?

2011-10-24T21:32:00.000-04:00

Many might say it doesn't matter to them, but they're probably lying. Most parents at least hope their children think well of them, I know I do. I no longer have to wonder though.

Fortunately for me my daughters Social Studies teacher had them do an assignment on world leaders past and present, (uh no, I did not make THAT list), then they had to list someone they know personally that they thought of as a leader. Guess who got picked? And yes, I have a slightly swollen ego because of it...Heck I'm a Home Based Mom, I'm competing with engineers and entrepreneurs and Directors of Fortune 500 companies (yes in our family).

So not only was I awed, but humbled as well, because I feel like my children -at least one of them- knows my worth. I am blessed and highly FAVORED.

#10 blows my mind, especially after having seen the movie "Courageous". You should definitely check it out.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Your Marriage Is Important to Me

2011-10-11T10:26:00.001-04:00

Life is full of challenges and ultimately the decisions we make regarding these situations determine if we'll make it through. Curve balls are thrown and feelings change, friends and lovers grow apart, schedules get more hectic and life happens. Through it all you need to make your marriage a priority, not just the marriage, but the relationship you have with your partner. Taking time to talk with them, have fun together and to nurture one another is essential. But what happens when neither of you feel like working on it, you're both so tired, or so fed up that you can't or won't take the time to look at your relationship to see where work could be put in? That is when you need friends, specifically married friends, who want to see your marriage succeed. Like minded people with similar goals generally tend to support one another and encourage positive outcomes in others lives.

Earlier this year, I was getting ready to attend a marriage gala and I offered a friend and his wife tickets to the event, however when I finally reached him, he told me they were separating that very week. I was sick, because the reason given to me was "I fell out of love with her". Seriously?!! I was hurt for her as much as him. There were some extenuating circumstances, but with friends and counseling the events possibly could have been prevented. I made it known to my friend that I thought he should take some time and try to work on his marriage, but he was pained and not open to the possibility of reconciliation. This is an old friend of mine, I've known him longer than my husband and he is honestly one of my oldest and dearest friends, which is why I was so hurt. Over the years, we haven't made as much time for one another as we used to, so we don't talk like we once did, so I didn't know the ends and out of his marriage, nor he mine. However I felt, had we been more open to one another as couples we could have helped each other avoid the pitfalls we found ourselves in. The same is true of all marriages, and I am fortunate that I have friends that believe the same thing.

Our marriages are not important to just our families, but for our childrens' future families. What chance do they have of keeping a marriage together if half the ones they know of personally end in divorce? And I'm not talking about divorce due to abuse, I'm talking about the "irreconcilable differences" and the "I fell out of love with them" splits. Marriage takes work, and there are days when I have to work super hard to stay with my husband, because though I may love him, he sure can get on my last nerve, and I know the feeling is mutual. My sister wives have had experiences that I may not have, and they are able to share with me from their experience, and I can share from mine. The key element of it all is SHARING. We cannot be ashamed of our circumstances, or timid in creativity for keeping our marriages whole. Please know that your marriage is important to me, even if only for selfish reasons...It might save mine...or my child may marry yours. We have to work together to keep our marriages strong and I pray that you take me seriously and become a friend of your friends marriages.

Back to my friend and his wife. I had told my mother about this friend, because she knows him too, and in my mothers fashion, she summoned him. She declared they were to have lunch because she needed to talk with him about this decision, (my mother divorced my stepdad 3 years ago), and she had her own insights to offer. Well upon my delivering this message for her, my friend informed me that he and his wife were going to attend counseling. I felt like this was a win... a small battle, but a victory none the less, and a "W" is a "W". I'll take it.

If your marriage is in trouble, reach out to a like-minded friend whose marriage and yours are a priority. It may make the difference of your life.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Fall is Here

2011-09-27T22:05:00.000-04:00

That means football and knitting kick into high gear, at least around here. Now mind you, I only watch college football, and only when the University of Michigan is playing. My heart bleeds maize and blue, our home is swathed in it, (oh yeah hubby went there too). My KitchenAid mixer is cobalt blue against a maize wall, the furniture in the family room is also blue against a maize wall, the guest room, (lovingly called the Lloyd Carr Memorial Suite by my father-in-law) is a combination of maize, blue and white. We might be slightly fanatical but that is neither here nor there.

The issue at hand here, is that I cannot find the right shade of maize for my knitting. I'm working on some hat designs, but I need that just right shade of - dare I say "yellow" (for the unindoctrinated), to make it perfectly authentic. Can anybody help me? Something in a DK, medium weight would be preferable, wool is also a preference. The color of the block "M" is what I'm looking for.

Until then...
Be Blessed

A Little Bit Goes A Long Way

2011-09-15T21:43:00.000-04:00

Do you remember someone telling you that when you were younger? It was usually in reference to some creamy concoction that would be slathered on some part of your body, but it holds true for lots of things, i.e. makeup, spandex, thanks, gravy and other sauces, attention... you catch my drift.

Over the past week in the circles I travel, the topic has been popping up quite constantly "how do you balance work and family?". Its been on blogs, personal conversations, forums, everywhere. I just recently told some friends "don't try to be Superwoman, that chick ain't real" (yes I speak in the vernacular occasionally), and another good friend wrote about "Defeating Superwoman: A Work in Progress".

So often we feel the need to do it all, or be judged for it; when that is not the case at all. If anything others are wishing you wouldn't try so hard so we won't look like slackers. Maybe if we just take a little bit of the wisdom that our parents doled out about creamy concoctions and applied it to everyday life we'd be a little better. For example: A little bit.. of time with your children each day will build bonds that last a lifetime, of exercise each day will make your heart beat a little longer, of compassion will help you see the world in a new light, of housework (each day) will make it the place you want to come home to, and ... a little bit of love makes the world a better place.

Even just a little bit, can make a huge difference. So maybe you didn't get ALL the laundry done, what you did will still bless your family. And maybe you didn't blog everyday this week, but the little blurb you put out on Wordless Wednesday or the menu you threw together last week, really helped someone out. Your time and effort has value no matter how big or small, so do what you can; because every little bit counts, and a little bit goes a long way.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Happy birthday Little Buddy @pieceofcake. on Twitpic

2011-09-15T21:11:00.000-04:00

Happy birthday Little Buddy @pieceofcake. on Twitpic

What's for Dinner?

2011-09-01T15:27:00.000-04:00

My kids are constantly asking me that question, even when they've just had a snack, and since I know they aren't hungry I usually just say "food". That'll teach them. With so many activities going on at different places, I figured I really need to stick to the whole "plan and prepare ahead" routine that was suggested eons ago.

I've planned out a menu a month at a time, but I could get pretty lax with the whole preparing early in the day part of it, so the planning was out the window. But now with everyone doing something different, and most days not at the same place, this momma has got to get her timing and planning together. With that in mind, I made up next weeks menu and picked up any needed ingredients that I didn't already have on hand.

This is also in line with being a little more coupon savvy. I didn't use any today, but I plan on doing so in the future. If you've got some sites you use regularly that are easy please let me know, I love a good deal too :)

Thursday: Chicken broccoli bake (a favorite from my UofM days :)
Friday: Burgers, Fries and Shakes
Saturday: Out
Sunday: Out
Monday: (It's a holiday, somebody's grilling...I hope)
Tuesday: Baked Chicken with potatoes and green beans
Wednesday: Meatloaf (in the crockpot) corn, and broccoli
Thursday: Fajitas, rice, beans
Friday: Mini pizzas, salad
Saturday: Taco salad

Enjoy and feel free to draw inspiration and share your ideas too. I love trying new easy meals.

Be Blessed

Upscale Magazine Prize Pack Giveaway

2011-08-18T13:21:00.001-04:00

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Tomorrow is My Birthday

2011-07-10T21:27:00.000-04:00

I am so blessed. I've already been out to dinner with my family, lucky me (SQUEE!). In the morning I get to go to a friends house for breakfast. She offered to cook for me to celebrate my special day. We try to get together at least once a year (on her birthday and have breakfast), but this year she's catching me on mine, and I feel SUPER SPECIAL!

To me cooking is a labor of love and when someone offers to make a meal for you, it means they really care. It has inspired me to do the same for someone else, in essence to "Pay it Forward". Not my family, I cook for them all the time, but a friend that I don't get to spend as much time with as I'd like. I hope they experience the same feeling of love as I do.

My mom bought me a dress to wear to the wedding I'm attending this weekend and that made me feel AWESOME!

And Wednesday I get to go see SADE...say what!!!

Every which way I turn, I am blessed. My life is this great journey and I am so happy to have made it these 33 years to experience all I have; the ups and downs. They have made me who I am, and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

I am truly grateful for all the people in my life. You've all helped me grow in some way or other, and I truly appreciate it. I trust your day will be as blessed as mine is.

Be Blessed.

EverythingMan Radio

2011-07-02T10:10:00.000-04:00

This morning I had the opportunity to tune in for the premiere launch of EverythingMan Radio. It's a great effort by some wonderful men to spread a message about being an all around, "Everything Man"; a son, friend, husband, father, and whatever other roles as the need arises. There platform is simple, "Real Men, Real Talk" and honestly, it is real, which I think is very necessary. You can't correct an issue by stepping politely around it whenever it comes up.

To be forthright, I must say I know these men, and I'm very glad that my husband and I do. It's an accountability issue. I know these guys @EverythingmanHB and @EverythingmanMC wouldn't advise anything foolish or detrimental, as they are committed to "pursue ways to elevate our communities and build stronger families!!" I know their wives and their children and thus I have a glimpse into their hearts, and they are the real deal. It's a blessing to be able to fellowship with them and I hope you all will support them in this effort.

The show isn't just for men though, both the co-hosts speak very highly of their Everything Woman (wives), and how these ladies support them and help keep their families running. My real appreciation for the show lies in my belief in the potential change that can come about from more people hearing the message these men have to share. I myself am a very visual learner, however it really becomes clear when I'm walked through it verbally. Dialogue is key.

Check them out tomorrow and Monday (you know you're off :) over at www.EverythingManRadio.com

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Grief...

2011-06-22T15:59:00.000-04:00

is UGLY!
is painful (physically, emotionally, mentally)
is finger pointing
is name calling
is accusatory
is tiring
is loss of perspective
is gaining perspective
is reconciliation

My stepfather died yesterday, and I'm still processing, as I'm sure the rest of the family is too. However some people believe this is the appropriate time to opine their feelings about what others did or didn't do. Now is not the time for such squabbles, and please keep things in perspective.

All of our experiences were different, but valid nonetheless and should be treated with equal respect.

I love church signs. Here is some advice from one that we could all use right now..."Keep your words sweet...You may have to eat them." My own little caveat to that is...don't make them too sweet, they may make you (and others) sick.

Be Blessed.

Rest in Peace, John H. Gilbert: Marine, Son, Husband, Father, Friend

A Great Family Film ...Mr Popper's Penguins

2011-06-14T20:43:00.001-04:00

This Friday, June 17th 20th Century Fox releases one of the greatest family films out in a long while.

Recently I had the opportunity to attend an advance screening of the film. My three daughters and I headed out to a wonderful "Summer Snow Day" hosted by Liquid Soul Media, which included a pre-screening games and activities.

Mr Popper's Penguins was an absolute delight. I enjoyed it so much and so did the kids. The theater was filled with laughter, but the movie had a great family plot (and several lessons) as well. I would definitely go see it again.

Definitely check out the trailer below.
#popperspenguins trailer

Be Blessed.

WIP's (Works in Progress) Wednesday

2011-06-08T14:45:00.000-04:00

So I've been teaching lately and my WIP's are piling up. It doesn't help that I'm a slow knitter anyway (by my own definition), or that I am easily distracted and rarely practice project manogamy. But the summer is upon us and my girls are out of school, so that makes for even slower progress in the knitting arena.


Lynn's Shrug

Blue Scarf

Levi's Corner

Currently I have...Lynn's shrug (my own design), Levi's Corner (a baby blanket for my new nephew), a Blue Scarf (which I started as a test knit for another designer, but may donate when its all done), and a crochet shawl (for my little cousin). I guess that isn't so bad, but I really feel like I'm forgetting something. Oh yeah, maybe all the color work I have to do to finish the second level of my certification. Let's see; Fair Isle, Duplicate stitch, Intarsia and Mosaic knitting.

As with anything in my life, a plan is necessary. So here's the deal. I'd like to finish the Blue Scarf by the end of the week (Saturday). Levi's corner must be done by July 14th (blocked and everything). Lynn's shrug just needs to be done before the end of October (when it might be cool enough for it). We'll save the shawl for Christmas. Now I just need to work on all my classwork; I'd like to be done by the end of September. That plan will take more time, so I'll come back with those details later.

Wish me luck, and that I don't get bored. I'll talk to you soon.

The Advice I Wish Someone Had Given Me

2011-06-06T23:14:00.000-04:00

When I graduated from high school, I knew I was going to college in a few months, and I knew the plan I had for my life, but I wasn't really sure who I was. I knew what I wanted to be, but without knowing who you are it makes it really hard to get from one point to another. I've had some time to think about what I'd say because this season has been full of graduates in my family, and I'm happy to have something worthwhile to tell them.

Now don't laugh, but this is my great advice....wait for it....wait for it....wait for it. "Remember who you are." Now I know I just said I didn't know who I was, but I think with that advice I'd have gotten myself together and done much better. However back to the new graduates. I know that all these young ladies and one gentleman come from great families where their parents talk to them, and are very open and there's phenomenal extended family support. They have great foundations and are much more grounded and realistic than I was. These are strong, confident, really intelligent, bright, beautiful young people, with families that love and support them. These are the things I need them to remember; that essentially they are not alone and they have the tools to accomplish whatever they want if they just remember that they are already properly equipped.

That being said, with such wonderful advice, they can't help but go far. Now I can't take credit for this sage advice. But it's still true nonetheless. Self-confidence is key to success no matter what stage in life you are in, and if you've got friends and family in your corner (which these kids have in spades), you'll go far.

I can't wait to see what wonderful feats these young people accomplish.
And just know that if you need anything you can always call me. I love you all always.

Be Blessed

Dear God 2.0

2011-05-25T08:27:00.001-04:00

"I'm trying hard to reach you."
"They said "hes' busy, hold the line please", call me crazy, I thought maybe he could mind read."

The opening lyrics to one of my favorite songs. Maybe because I've been feeling that holding myself, but I realized, it's really my own fault. Seriously. I don't call as often as I should, and when I do, I'm not talking about anything. Just rambling...he already knows that he's waiting for me to get to the point (even though he already knows), however like any good parental figure he wants you to recognize and acknowledge what it is you want and speak it out loud, ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT, I'm not a mind-reader.

The church my grandmother attended

These past few weeks the blog has been quiet, because life as i know has been very interesting, and I needed to process. I like to think about my feelings a lot. I hate making hasty decisions and speaking without at least trying to consider how my words or actions will affect others. This recent time has all come to a head now, and I'm calling on my old friend to really talk. Since I've had time to think it out, and talk about it, I can now clearly express myself and my feelings without compromising myself.

I've come to realize that you all don't really know me, and that's okay, that's what the book is for ;) I'm not necessarily going to pull a Don Lemon, but there's a lot that doesn't go in this blog. Here's a brief synopsis: My stepfather is in a vegetative state, has been for two weeks now (and I'm pretty sure I haven't talked to him in months). My little cousin graduated from HS last week and I just figured out the best advice to give her (what I wish someone had told me). My husband is in school and it's going, it's the combination of school and travel that is really causing friction. One of my aunts and aforementioned cousin have been displaced by the recent floods in MS.

Down the street from where I grew up

There's other stuff, but I won't lay it all out today. Just know that I'll lay out all my newly gained wisdom, (oh yeah got some advice on that too),when I can steal a few moments some other time. Please keep my family in prayer, we would really appreciate it. Thanks.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

The water has receded in all these pictures, but you still can't get close enough to my aunts house to take pictures, because the water is still covering the roads. C'est la vie.

Happy Mother's Day

2011-05-08T00:01:00.000-04:00

Oh yes, it will be happy, there will be no moping and complaining and whining like last year (It was my party I could cry if I wanted to). ~~I was no model parent, but I hadn't eaten in hours and my blood sugar was getting low~~
No excuses, I was slightly awful and that's that.

This year we're going to early service at church and will get to brunch nice and early and there will be no complaints. I am sharing my Mother's Day this year with my Mother in Law and though I would also like to have my mother present ~~she works for the unholy WM~~ we can't always have what we want. I'll have to take her out next week. My sister's took her to dinner and a movie today, so I'll get her another day. I did mail a card though.

Mothering is a great joy for me and a privilege as well as a blessing. But during this time I am reminded of the mother's who have lost children, or children who have lost mothers, or are fearing the loss of one. My mind also goes to the women who want a child but can't have one for some reason or other.

I know a few women in this position, and I wish them a Very Happy Mother's Day. They are some of the most loving women I know and they care for others like they had given birth to them themselves. I am blessed to have them in my life, to know their kindness and love and generosity. Thank you doesn't seem enough, but it is sincere and heartfelt.

I wish you all a Happy Mother's Day!

Be Blessed

Update 5-4-11

2011-05-04T22:30:00.000-04:00

That's usually the subject line of messages I send to my girl scout parents. This past week has been a whirlwind of activity around here. Getting ready for the oldest girls' birthday...the big 1-0 and entering the "double digits" as they have so fondly dubbed it was maddening. It was one of those days that I said I wouldn't do again, i.e. double booking activities, but it was her birthday, so I had to pack it all in.

Last week I was making final arrangements for the knitting and quilting classes I started teaching this week. I made matching t-shirts and yoga pants for all three girls and myself for the Mother-Daughter pajama party, ordered the cake, made reservations for dinner, hosted a support group meeting, went to a friends swearing in ceremony, attended the school talent show, created a site for my knitting students and myriad other things. The most important being dinner with Pooh for her birthday. Eleanor's swearing in was a very close second though.

My daughter turned 10 on Saturday, and though I didn't cry outwardly, my heart was bursting inside, and not with all the fear I thought, but with such joy, because as I looked at her, all dressed up in a really cute "big girl outfit" I still saw my child, my innocent baby, my girl who still plays with dolls and wants to play outside, riding her bike and playing tag with her sisters and cousins. My daughter is still a child, (despite the world around her), and I thank God for that.

I have been dreading the tough questions and talks that are ahead of us, but thanks to many friends advice I know the transition will be easier than I've imagined. A couple of tips are already paying off, thanks T. Jackson for the book recommendation, she is eating it up :) I am so excited for her, and every day a little less scared, because I know that we have put ourselves around people that will help us to make sure our girls grow to be all they can.

In other news:

I started teaching, and let me tell you my seniors are sassy, all good sports, but I got some real firecrackers. I can't wait to see them next week.
I found the Apple Cake recipe; Whew!!! I really thought it was lost forever. I was supposed to post it on Facebook a year ago. I promise I will post it later this week.
I am behind on all my other sewing, (especially since I decided to make all my outfits for my Las Vegas trip this summer) look for some FO's soon.
My brother got a job and is moving to Miami
and, I've still got more work to do for my quilting class on Friday, so ....

Be Blessed

Out of Order

2011-04-25T09:01:00.003-04:00

Being transparent is something that I aim to be with my children. I don't generally shy away from discussions with them about life, because I want them to feel as if they can talk to me about anything. Hopefully I'm setting us up for a lifetime of open communication. So in all this openness and transparency, there must be honesty.

Yesterday as we were preparing to go to Easter service I heard my youngest two daughters talking. What exactly they began talking about I'm not sure, as I only caught a bit, but my youngest said "I'm going to get married and have kids". To which my reply was "yes, that's the way you do it, get married first then have kids." So my middle daughter chimes in "Wasn't Lynn at your wedding?" I say "Yes, she was, but Mommy and Daddy were out of order."

Life is what it is and sometimes things, or people get broken, essentially we are "out of order". That was how my life was. I had known for a long time that I was not doing things the way they should have been done. I was literally all over the place. I was 22 years old, and unwed when I became a mother. That is a fact, and I am not ashamed [now], neither am I proud of it.

I am sure the conversation of "doing the right thing" i.e. getting married when found we were pregnant occurred, however I knew that I was in no place to make that type of life changing decision when I was so confused. And really it's not "doing the right thing" if you do it because...... I want my children to know that even though we didn't do things in order, that doesn't mean they should follow the same path, and hopefully we are showing them a better option.

My parents were never married [to one another], each married other people when I was about 7. My husband's parents divorced when he was young, and he was largely raised by a single mother. We both had good lives, but not the family structure that we are trying to show our children. We don't have long lines of married couples [you know those marriages older than we are] to look to as examples, however that is what we want to be for our children. We want them to marry FIRST, THEN have sex, and children, in that order. If it doesn't work out that way we will still love them, (just as God still loves us), but I pray it does. We want them to see that even if you don't start reading and following the directions from the beginning it doesn't mean you can't pick them up and eventually get it right. Just because we were out of order doesn't mean they have to be.

We started out of order, BUT we eventually got smart and started following the directions and we are here today blessed and happy. Trying to be the best parents we can by being open, honest, and showing that all things can be put in order when you Believe.

Be Blessed

She's Really In Tune With Her Body

2011-04-20T14:49:00.001-04:00

Monday (the 18th) was my baby's birthday, she turned five years old, and she totally acted like a 5 year (a big girl). Nothing really changed, but it was like I could see a shift in her. When I told her friends and loved ones wished her a happy birthday she said, "Tell them thank you". Quite impressive, before[turning 5] it was almost as if she hadn't heard me speak (otherwise known as ignoring me). Monday though I could see a change, and it was good.

I maybe overindulged in the "It's your birthday have your way shenanigans", but honestly, she's a good kid, any you probably would have too. I let her have 3 pieces of candy and the icing of a cupcake (she doesn't like the actual cake - go figure). Shortly afterward she asserts that her throat is itchy; I'm thinking one of those candies may have had a trace of peanut, so I give her some diphenhydramine and keep a watchful eye. No swelling no more talk of itching, all is well...or so I think. Later that evening, as they are getting ready for bed, she asks me to check her temperature...no problem. The temp is normal, and everyone is off to bed.

My precious sleeps with me because she was having difficulty in her room (something about her sisters talking to each other). So I let her sit with me awhile and she falls asleep. I put her to bed and we both get a good night's rest. [Meanwhile her body is on a covert mission to stop me in my tracks.] I wake up and tell her "it's time to get ready for school", and she says "Mom, can you check my temperature?"
"I think it will be normal, you were last night."
"Can you just check please?"
"Okay, oh crap 102.2, where's the Little Noses."

How did this happen. Well I figured it was just a bug and was going to treat it as such. I needed to take her oldest sister to the pediatrician later for an issue so of course Bell would tag along. Once we're on our way back to triage she ask the nurse "After you finish with my sister can you check me out?"
Nurse: "Did your mom put your name on the list?"
Me: "No it's probably just a virus"
Nurse: "I'll go get your chart after I check on your sister."
I can tell I am in the dog house.

So after sister has been checked out, and that's a whole other post we move on to Bell. Ears look good, glands are a little swollen. There's something in the throat that catches the docs eye. Long story short, after two unsuccessful swabs, the third is able to be tested ...it's positive for STREP. A prescription is written and we're given directions to keep the little home a couple more days. And of course it's contagious, so I send the Pre-K teacher a text before we leave the exam room and call her BFF's mom because they celebrated her birthday with us over the weekend.

Here's where I hang my head in shame. My daughter knew something wasn't right with her body and she took her health care into her own hands, and I'm glad she did. I was just going to reconcile it as a virus and let it go. However, did you know that Strep can lead to Scarlett Fever? I didn't, I didn't even know it still existed. Bell has done this before, with regards to feeling the arrival of an illness a night or so before and informed us of such. You'd think ~~we'd~~ (I'd) have learned to listen to her by now. She obviously knows her body better than I do. Listen to your kids, sometimes they know best.

Items highlighted are some common symptoms of Strep.

Be Blessed

Tell Me Something Good...It's Back!

2011-04-15T00:24:00.001-04:00

So back when I was in school, I started "Tell Me Something Good Thursday" (TMSGT) as a way to report the good stuff that was happening in class, or to keep from complaining about what wasn't going so good [in school or life]. Well now, I've perused a few older posts, and I really liked that theme, so I'm bringing back, (like high-top fades and mohawks).

Today I went to the Atlanta Zoo with my second grader for the first time (yes the first time---put your eyes back in your heads). My kids have been to the zoo several times without me. I've generally left that to grandparents, friends, fieldtrips. Really it is because I have some mixed emotions about zoos (we'll save those for another day). At any rate, I so enjoyed this day with my daughter. She is such a bubbly spirit and a joy to be around. I loved seeing her in her element (you see she is totally different at school than home).

Our Little Buddy is a giver, and she gives so much of herself at school that by the time she gets home, she is so wiped out she can barely keep it together. At home she is prone to emotional outburst, she is super-sensitive, but at school totally different, all smiles and laughter, and today I got to see that. BEAUTIFUL!!!

In addition to that, I put a call out to my Facebook friends, and they truly came through for me today. I needed advice and they doled it out. I was so thankful for all their input, and just wanted all of them and all of you know that I have some really TERRIFIC friends!

Tell Me Something Good... I know you've got at least one thing.

Be Blessed

Wind Down Wednesdays

2011-04-13T23:36:00.000-04:00

I went to bed earlier this morning exhausted, because that's the only way I can make myself go to bed when my husband isn't home. Now although I went to bed late I woke up (the second time) feeling refreshed and full of life, (this was of course after my kids were on the bus to school). I was excited about the day because it was Wednesday - yeah I know "hump day" what's there to be excited about?

Well in my house, it's the day we don't have any activities and I usually don't have any meetings, so I can pretty much do what I want. Now granted there aren't so many do what I want days, but I can definitely usually do what I need to do on Wednesday, like finish the laundry and mop the floors, really clean everything up and prepare a nice meal.

You all know that I'm a Mocha Mom, and in my chapter we use to have "Wind Down Wednesday". These were generally outings that didn't require a lot of preparation. Maybe just hanging out at another mocha's house or going to the park with the kids, something really laid back. Getting a chance to catch up on things helps me to relax and "wind down" which is exactly why I was so looking forward to today; and let me tell you it was a great one. I put some laundry on this morning, went to the dentist, the bank, a couple of craft stores and made it back home in time to get my bags out of the truck and watch the girls get off the bus.

I enjoy Wednesday because for me it represents a break from the chaos that life can become the rest of the week. Wednesday is welcome in my home, I love it like it were a sacred day set apart just for me to breathe deeply and be renewed. Maybe you have a day that really allows you to recharge, if not, I suggest you get one.

Be Blessed

So Sleepy

2011-04-13T00:26:00.000-04:00

I am really tired, and want to go to sleep, however my husband is not home. He is away on business, and when that is the case, I have a really hard time getting to sleep and especially at a decent hour. I generally tend to stay up way to late, even when he's away in the same time zone, and climb back in bed in the mornings for a little "extra" sleep to catch up on what I missed the night before.

There are plenty of things I could/should be doing, but I procrastinate something ridiculous during these times. I won't tell you how much I'm slacking, but know that it's serious. No work getting done here. But you know what, I'm going to hit the hay. I am so tired right now, my eyelids are drooping more than they did in stats class.

Sweet dreams y'all.

Be Blessed

Refined...Refinement...Refine Me

2011-04-10T20:28:00.018-04:00

There's no better time for reflection, than when surrounded by the beauty of nature. This weekend there was plenty of that in my life, as I went camping with my daughters' Girl Scout troops at the very lovely Indian Springs State Park. During this time I came to the realization that maybe I could use a bit of refinement.

Being a troop leader is something I really enjoy (to be read: working with the girls and hopefully helping to develop their character and instill in them a love for the environment). However the conclusion I drew this weekend has me leaning towards a different course in the future i.e., not being a leader. I found myself not wanting to deal with parents; not all of them (however having that desire is not necessarily a glowing quality in a leader).

This year has been interesting for me to say the least. I came into it with a sense of dread and loathing. [Well it's true] Several parents and leaders have expressed unhappiness with my leadership style. [They are in the minority] but well they're entitled to their opinions.

However back to this weekend. There were some instances that tried my patience, and I really felt that (my patience) was something that needed to be refined. It occurred to me that refinement meant a drawing down of me and an increase of something more pure. I need to be closer to God in order to be a more effective leader. I want to be refined, to be better, to be less me and more God.

With this in mind I will be making a lateral move to co-leader next year and working on becoming a better person (with more patience) so that I can better serve the girls and families I work for. I always tell the girls that we should live by the Promise and the Law, and I mean it. In order to do that I must show them a good example of doing so myself.

The Girl Scout Promise

On my honour, I will try
to serve God, and my country,
to help people at all times,
and to live by the Girl Scout Law.

The Girl Scout Law

I will do my best to be,
Honest and fair,
friendly and helpful,
considerate and caring,
courageous and strong,
responsible for what I say and do,
respect myself and others,
respect authority,
use resources wisely,
make the world a better place,
and be a sister to every girl scout.

All I can do is try. I just hope that after some time of reflection and study I will show myself approved.

Until next time,
Be Blessed.

Love Is An Action Word

2011-03-29T21:21:00.008-04:00

Many people may disagree, but I have to let you know I've been researching this for quite some time,(non-scientifically of course). Most would argue that it's a feeling, but I don't believe this. It may begin this way, but that definitely isn't how it ends. You see, I know you can choose whether or not to act on the feelings that you have. Otherwise why would people divorce over irreconcilable differences, or leave relationships where they were previously happy, but have over time "fallen out of love" with one another, or maybe just one fell out of love.

This weekend I had a wonderful time with my husband and many of our friends celebrating the loving marriages that we have. Celebrating the blessings that we are able to experience by living our lives with our best friends and sharing ourselves completely with someone else.

You all know I love a good party, as evidenced by the pictures from Marriage galas of the past, and birthdays, and whatever else you've seen posted on this blog. So with that love of celebration in mind I looked to invite more of my married friends to the event. To my great sadness, one of the friends I contacted, replied with the news that he and his wife had separated just the week before. Why? Because over the course of several years and circumstances many of us face (no infidelity or abuse). He said he had "fallen out of love with her". I was so hurt by this statement, because I know that my relationship with my husband, (we've been a couple longer than we've been married), has had its fair share of ups and downs; and thankfully, by the grace of God we are still together, and so much in love.

Hence my certainty that love is an action word. It is a verb that you choose on a daily basis whether or not to give it, or show it, or even to feel it. Sometimes we are so hurt by others that we allow ourselves to push love "deep down, never to be brought up again". Other times it is showered on undeserving people. No matter how you slice it, it's a choice, and I am so grateful that my husband chooses to love me everyday. And I choose to love him as well; some days its easier than others, but we continue to make the choice, everyday, "on purpose", and I am very happy with the choice that I make.

Remember those commercials from recent years "Verb, It's What You Do!", why not make LOVE your verb? Act on it daily.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Let's Get Physical

2011-03-15T07:49:00.006-04:00

Anybody else remember that song from the 1980's by Olivia Newton John? Well it's been on my mind lately, as I have been trying to muster the _______ to work out. I've got inspiration: I think; motivation: sure a little; will, there might be a problem. Because we all know, "where there's a will there's a way".

From Drop Box

Here's the deal: Have an event on the 26th (yes of this month), bought a dress, slightly to small (a pinch really, but if I eat, which I plan to do, there might be an unsightly bulge). I've got Zumba and a plan to walk, (which I was going to do today, but it's raining cats and dogs :() I need to lose about an inch around my chest to make it most flattering, any suggestions on how to burn fat in about a week and a half, short of liposuction? I'm open to just about anything. Thanks in advance.

Be blessed

So Much to Write About, Not Enough Time (Or Pictures)

2011-03-08T09:17:00.003-05:00

There is so much going on. Girl Scout cookies came back and boy has that been one big roller-coaster ride; and not in a positive way. One minute council says, "We have cookies", the next "Sorry we don't have cookies". So tired, especially since parents continue to ask for cookies, which is a good thing, but when I have to go back and forth with what I'm telling them about availability, "It sucks".

I've taken pictures because I thought Spring was here, then the weather turned and I wasn't sure, and I still didn't have enough pictures for a montage :(

I am excited about a few things though. I got new yarn yesterday..oooh and needles aaahh. I will take pictures later today.

Since I'm rambling, I'll leave you.

Be Blessed.

Happy Valentine's Day ;-)

2011-02-14T23:26:00.005-05:00

Seriously... I hope you are spreading love everyday, and at every opportunity you have. However if you wait for this one day a year to make your deepest amorous affections known, do it in a Big, Bold way.

Be Blessed.

Knitting Lessons

2011-02-12T22:55:00.003-05:00

So I'm really going forward with teaching the knitting lessons, and to help put myself out there, I've created a "Betterist" account over on www.betterfly.com. It's a new site that matches up people who offer services with others who are looking for that particular skill.

I'm excited about it, and hope that it will drive business my way. I know many of you all are also skilled in many ways, and it may be something for you to look into as well. You can read over what the classes I offer on my "Class Descriptions" tab.

Oh yeah, you can get a great little widget too. Check mine out --->

Be Blessed

The Nerve of Them!

2011-02-07T22:48:00.006-05:00

You probably don't know this, but I don't like to drive. This is because I am of the belief that the people around me either drive too fast or too slow, they don't use their signals properly, and myriad other things. However what I ran across the other day while trying to find a parking spot at one of my favorite places, (JoAnn's), totally blew me away. Seriously, the nerve of some people.

Now mind you I have nothing against Honda's, my first car was one, but one definitely doesn't need this much space. This person obviously didn't learn how to share, or to park for that matter.

Be Blessed

My Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Night

2011-02-01T13:07:00.008-05:00

Well not exactly,....but it was very scary.

It was 2:30 Friday when Bella came home and said "Mommy I can't move my neck." I'm thinking 'it's a game', she's just being silly, however when I tried to get her to turn her neck she wouldn't and when I tried to sit her on my lap, she screamed in pain. I immediately called her teacher. We spoke briefly with Bella screaming intermittently in the background, as I would try to move her about. I was trying to get her to rest and ice it, because from what the teacher told me, (and what I gathered from WebMD), it might be a neck strain.

Well unfortunately I put my babe through more pain because we had to pick Lynn up from school. She screamed the whole time getting in her car seat. We made it to the school with no problems, chatted with the teacher briefly, again, and went back home. Her neck is still bothering her, but she has more range of motion, but not much. I try icing the spot, but she's not really in the mood, for my attempts at help. At this time I decide to make use of the wonderful insurance we have and call the nurse advice line. During the course of the call I realize she has a fever, now mind you she didn't have one 20 minutes prior to this.

The nurse tells me to continue icing, and give Motrin, to bring the fever down and help with pain. If it's not better in a couple hours take her to urgent care. Well by the time my husband comes home, it's time for the older girls to leave for their sleepover, however only one is going, Lani has a fever too. AGH. Bella still has a fever and her neck is still bothering her. Hubby dropped Lynn at the sleepover and came back to take Bella to Children's Hospital.

Why is this night so terrible, so horrible, I'm always with my girls, ALWAYS. I take them to every doctor's appointment, visit to the Allergist, all the shots, yup I'm there; but I couldn't be Friday. During that visit I was so anxious, because in addition to "Neck strain" I also ran across "Meningitis", I was terrified, the Internet is the Devil. So when Michael calls and tell me they've done a throat culture and a throat X-ray and now they want to do a lumbar puncture (aka spinal tap) I am so scared. Thanks to my husband who prayed with me on the phone, and Facebook friends who prayed for our family, I was calmed (a bit). I was still aching that I couldn't be there with her to soothe her and comfort her, just hold her hand and hug her.

Thankfully we have a wonderful Pediatrician who happened to be on call that night, and was a very effective hand-holder, explaining everything to me in detail. I really appreciate it, because she knew Bella was already at the hospital in capable hands, but she was there for ME.

The lumbar puncture was done around midnight, and we got the results around 1:30. It was negative, everything was Negative, Thank God. They made it home around 3:00 and I was so relieved. I cuddled up next to my baby and got a few hours sleep before picking Lynn up (at 8:00 a.m).

Bella is fine, range of motion is back to normal, and my nerves are good. Lani was fine that same night, beating me at Wii bowling, and tennis :-)

Side note: Friday was supposed to be Date Night.

Be Blessed

David and Goliath

2011-01-23T22:42:00.005-05:00

Here's the back story...My oldest daughter was nominated for the Reading Bowl at her school. Over the Winter break she was given two books to read, and her teacher asked me to make sure she did a brief chapter summary (to help keep it fresh). Well begrudgingly she did these things. I thought maybe she didn't like the books, but they were actually very interesting. Come to find out (Wednesday) she doesn't want to participate...at all.

So Friday I'm at the school to drop of money for a field trip, and (I was really trying to just slip in and out the school) daughter sees me and is mopey, but instantly ecstatic. Mopey because I didn't arrive when she wanted me to and ecstatic because she believed I would tell the Reading bowl coach that she didn't have to participate. Um..."no way Jose", I am a believer in encouraging gently, and if need be out right decrying "this is how it shall be". Well I'm learning that is not always right (sensibly read "in the best interest of the child"). Bleh.

Welcome to today, where I'm teaching Bible study, and really looking for a lesson that will reinforce my opinion (and the teachers) that my child should indeed participate in the aforementioned activity. However what I find isn't quite in line with my hopes, but I go along with it anyway, because as I told the girls "this is as much a lesson for me, as it is for you".

I realize that my children are not me. Though they are smart and beautiful and generally kind they are not simply copies of me. They are individuals with their own personalities and interests, though some of those interests are in line with things I like to do, which may be why I push them to do some things they might not necessarily be totally interested in (mother guilt, - I hope I'm not the only one). But I really want to be better, so today's lesson unfolded with my children hearing that they are able to make some of their own decisions based on the gifts/abilities/talents that they have.

Before entering into any lessons, I pray for guidance. These are my revelations.

Letting Them Be Themselves
1 Samuel 17:19-51 Key Verses 38-40

In this particular lesson, David goes to visit his brothers on the front lines, as Israel is preparing the go to battle with the Philistines. Goliath of course taunts the Israelites, and Saul has offered the hand of one of his daughters, and tax-free living for the victor and his entire family (not bad). Well, after David (a young boy at this time) pleads his case, Saul gives his blessing for David to try to slay the giant. He also offers David his armor, but the young boy declines the offer because the armor of course doesn't fit him, it is very large and cumbersome. He can't really move in it, and using the sword is difficult. Instead the David chooses 5 smooth stones, and goes out with his staff, sling and most importantly his faith. We all know in the end he is victorious, but what many of us may fail to see is that it was with David's own talents and skills and his weapon of choice that he was successful. Not with something that was forced upon him.

Through prayer I could see it is my job to lead them and guide them in the ways of God, not my ways. If I guide them properly and realize they cannot do things the same way I did, (nor do I want them to), they will be fine. God is always with them, and they must use the talents they have. They must be their own person, (and I cannot live vicariously through them).

Until next time,
Be Blessed

I Have A Dream

2011-01-17T21:03:00.005-05:00

....Actually, I have lots of dreams. I am filled with hopes and desires for a gloriously bright future. I am truly filled with so much love and joy and enthusiasm for all the possibilities that are available to me, my children, prayerfully (my grandchildren), my husband, todo mi familia (all my family).

Martin Luther King Jr. Day is not just a day of service, and reflection, but a chance to engage in a dialogue on how to move this country forward without infringing the rights of others, in a non-violent way. I can only imagine what my life may have been like were it not for the efforts of people like Martin Luther King Jr., and Medgar Evers, Shirley Chisholm, Coretta Scott King, etc... They gave so much of themselves; their families paid such high prices, and because of their sacrifices I can dream AND achieve so many things.

We must continue to work for equality in this country though. As a woman, (though I don't work outside the home), it pains me that women make .70 on the dollar that every man makes. It's a horrible notion that I am telling my daughters to do their very best so their male counterparts can earn more for the same work. However still I dream that they will soar to heights yet unseen (if that is their choice). I'm just happy they have the opportunity to do either.

Please continue to engage in a discourse that will help elevate the status of all citizens of this country.

Be Blessed

Icelandic Vacation

2011-01-14T11:35:00.005-05:00

No I didn't go to Iceland, but it sure felt like it here in the Metro-Atlanta area. All it takes is a little snow to shut this city down for a day or two. But mix that snow with freezing rain, and you've shut the whole of northern Georgia down.

Normally I scoff at the people scurrying to the stores stripping the shelves bare at the very hint of snow. This time I shook my head at myself, because for once it was merited. I went to the store last Friday, (and it was nice and sunny), to get a few things, with the plan to shop on Sunday. I picked up milk, orange juice, potatoes and some other small things. Saturday I went to an orientation at my husband's school and had a lovely evening out afterward. By Sunday I could see the clouds coming and I said, "let me pick up some more milk, (the kids will want cocoa), and orange juice (Michael has had a horrible cold, and the juice from Friday was almost all gone). Why was the store nearly cleared out at 7:00 p.m.?

Since I knew the snow would have schools closed the next day I figured I'd let the girls stay up and watch "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition" but they couldn't get themselves together so they headed to bed at 8:30. Next thing you know its Monday morning, and there's a lovely 3" blanket of snow on the ground. However it was quickly followed by freezing rain so my yard turned into an ice rink. When the girls finally made it out to play, they sounded like the icebreakers in the Arctic. The ice was a half inch thick and my girls were eating it like Popsicles. There was no leaving the house. So each day we watched the news in the evening waiting for the list of school closures to scroll across the bottom. Never did I expect it to last the whole week.
I ran out of eggs on Wednesday. So who's the real _____ (insert your word here)? My husband braved the icy conditions and made it to work and the store. I was very grateful, but also very concerned. There were reports of accidents all over the news (although that's not really new to Atlanta). I just didn't want him to get stuck out there, especially since he was sick.

All the other days we were shut in were pretty uneventful. I'm that mom that knows how to make a snow week "no fun". My seven year old practiced piano twice a day everyday, and went over her weekly review sheet from school. My nine year old finished her science project of the planets and read. The 4 year old got over easy; she didn't do much except whine about how bored she was, and bang on the piano (not really, I'd never allow banging,..it was more like peck ferociously). I managed to finish my lesson plans for my Knitting Instructor Certification, as well as two patterns and projects for beginners. Now don't let me fool you, I wasn't totally anal. We watched our fair share of Netflix and yesterday watched the marathon of "Selling New York". It was actually relaxing to do nothing, and not really have a list of things to do.

I enjoyed this week. It was relaxing and fun and easy. There was no stress of rushing to get anywhere or get anything done. I worked so we wouldn't get behind, but we enjoyed just being together as well. It was a nice extended break and I really appreciated it. As for making up the days, I'm not looking forward to that.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

New Year, New Beginnings: What I'm Doing Different

2011-01-03T20:47:00.003-05:00

Happy New Year All! Yeah it's a few days late, but I was living it up. My anniversary is New Year's Eve, so we had fun. Then we watched the Gator Bowl with the kids, and prayed that RichRod would be getting the old heave-ho.

I have been enjoying these last few weeks with family, just being in each others company and having fun. As you all know, I do not make resolutions, I set goals, and in that vein, here is an update on how 2010 went.
I did NOT read 52 books last year, no where near that many (adult titles that is, if we include children's literature I am at 100+). I read about 12 books, roughly one per month, sadly though I didn't enjoy many of them; I just finished because I had started and they were one closer to the goal. Now mind you, when I picked them up, I really thought I would like them, however most of them left me wanting more. There were so many slow starts (Jane Eyre was one), too much longing and not enough "do something already". A lot of bad advice (sorry Dr. Laura, just didn't do it for me). And some really just "too much going on" science fiction. So the reading goal for this year, drum roll please, 13+ books. Simple and doable.

It was my goal last year also to do 2 community service projects with the girls. Mission accomplished. We did a river clean-up day, made a blanket for a foster child, and a voter awareness project ( i.e. standing out in the cold on November 2, holding up signs for people to vote (we weren't affiliated with any candidate)). Oh yeah, we're working on a quilt now :) This year we'll have to do at least as much, so let's say 3+ community service projects with the girls this year.

Let's see, I've started looking for self-publishing tips so I can get the story done, and a book of poems. Hopefully by my birthday I'll have it all ready to release. I'm also working on my knitting certification, and that should be done by the end of March (because I don't want to pay an extension fee). I'm also working on a secret project which I will fill you in on later ;-)

So I've set my goals, that's the same ole, same ole. So "what's different?" you ask. Well this year, for the first time in a very long time, I am actually believing that "I" can "it". "It" being anything I put my mind to. Honestly, it's one thing to think, "oh yeah, I can do that", but trust me, it's a whole other to say "I can DO that". I might also help that I realize, a little focus isn't a bad thing, and skittering around like a squirrel on caffeine is cute for a second, but then it gets really SCARY. Focus is good, so this year, I'm making a plan to do things in an orderly fashion and get what I know I can DONE, and leave all the rest behind. I'm focusing on the possible and not the "I don't know".

This year my status is:

"Shanta Is removing "fear" and "doubt" from her vocabulary and using any possible "failures" as stepping stones to SUCCESS! Be Blessed"

That's it, I refuse to let myself be the harbinger of bad news for my future. I believe I can, and I know I will. I encourage you to do the same.

Happy New Year,
And as always,
Be Blessed.

Fighting the Fever

2010-12-14T22:17:00.004-05:00

So Christmas is almost here and I'm excited that my kiddos will be out of school for a few weeks. However I wasn't expecting that break to begin a week (or more) early for them. What has happened you ask?

Well, the little one had a fever last Thursday...you know the kind that they wake up and its a 100._ and well that's the "you can't go to school with that temp" speech; only to have said child enjoying a morning of preschool television on their favorite channel. Rinse and repeat on Friday. Saturday is great minus the allergic reason (the child with "no" allergies) has to Ibuprofen, because she's not feeling well. Sunday I take the oldest to a birthday party they were all invited to because middle and youngest have fevers, and well the swelling still hadn't gone down from the previous days reaction.

Come Monday morning EVERYONE has a fever...all three girls, the trifecta. Never has it happened before. Today is only Tuesday, but it feels like it's been a week. It doesn't help that now I have a tickle in my throat, and a slight temp. Or that I'm the room parent for the oldest class and the winter party is Thursday - and I haven't finished shopping for it :P

I'm fighting fevers with all I've got, minus Ibuprofen or red dye. I pray my babies get well soon, and I ask you to do the same.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Making Time

2010-11-23T10:06:00.003-05:00

In the words of the famous Ricky Bobby, "If you're not first you're last". For moms this is the absolute truth. Make yourself a priority.

Often we are juggling so many things at once, that if one falls, we feel as if the whole lot will coming crashing down. However, we must be mindful that one missed appointment, event, does not a complete "hot mess" make. Sometimes dropping that one ball can be a blessing, it lets you breath a bit because there are fewer balls in the air. Honestly, we could all stand to let a few things drop, just remember not to drop the important ones: family, friends, health, and most importantly YOU! So what if Timmy misses little league practice this week, or John's shirts didn't get picked up from the cleaners, it's not the end of the world.

I am definitely not advocating shirking any responsibilities or reneging on any commitments, but sometimes you need to excuse yourself from an activity. You don't have to be everywhere, doing everything for EVERY event; that is the quickest way to burn yourself out, put stress on your health, and your family.

This year has been rough for lots of people, for lots of different reasons. Unfortunately when times get hard we usually put our own needs on the back burner and this only adds insult to injury. As a daughter/wife/mom/sister/friend/mentor if I don't take of myself, then the people that need me don't get the best I have to give. Admittedly I have let myself go, but I now realize (even more than ever) that I must make time to take care of myself.

The million dollar question though "how do I go about "making time", especially when I'm already booked to the hilt?". Well you have to be very "gung ho" about it, and have a "do or die" attitude; as in "If I don't do this, I will die". In all seriousness death is a consequence of not taking care of yourself, so setting aside time for yourself should be an absolute priority. I understand you already get up at the crack of dawn to get the kids ready for and off to school, then you have your own work, and errands and then the afternoon is here and kids activities and meals...whoa, where did the day go? It went as usual.

Let's take a step back and think about you. As a matter of fact let's start our day thinking about ourselves, in a positive, not vain way of course. Let's begin by giving thanks, right when you wake up (5 minutes earlier). Five minutes alone before anyone can ask for anything "Thanks that I am alive and able to serve those who need me, thanks for my health which will get better because I promise to make myself a priority, thanks for time to myself to clear my mind and start afresh." These few moments in the morning are your foundation, make it a priority so it will be strong. As the day progresses, steal a moment here and there. Lunch time is a great time for a quick workout. Packing a nice healthy meal and snacks is also a way to add time (because you aren't waiting for people to prepare food and bring it out), it can also be healthier. When you're with the kids for activities, find a way to get in a bit of activity yourself, it also makes for great family fun. You could take a walk around the park while Timmy is practicing, (he surely doesn't need you looking over his shoulder). Instead of watching t.v. as a family, read or play games together (uh mental dexterity is important too!). Family dinners are great, just make sure that they're healthy (lifetime eating habits start early, but they can change), we always want to model healthy behaviors.

All the little moments you snatch throughout the day add up, and you'll see changes in your attitude and health if you stick with them. And those around you will see the changes too. You owe it to yourself to make the time to have a better you. Just remember Ricky Bobby and you'll be okay.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Hey Y'all...I'm Back. No For Real This Time, I'm Serious

2010-11-19T17:30:00.003-05:00

It's been another __ months since I've posted. But that doesn't matter, I'm back now. I have a desire to be here. I want to write, to let you in to keep you informed. There was just so much going on in my life, that I needed to process alone before I could let it all out. But I'm back now, to shower you with my own special blend of life.

Let's see,the drag started in April wherein events which shall not be named occurred. Then it just dragged into June and the scale of the devil which told me I weighed ___ lbs, which meant a gain of 1o pounds in one year (I've weighed the same thing since 1997, and even when I was pregnant I wasn't this big) Boo... :P We'll skip the mammogram, aside from the discomfort, everything there was fine. Heading into July (my birthday month) and I decide to give blood as a gift...REJECTED...my veins don't cooperate, they collapse ...FAIL. Skip over to September, thank you Primary Care Physician for letting me know my weight is a little concerning, and that my cholesterol is slightly elevated..ick October beckons with the lure of a Zumba infomercial, (I'll let you know how that works out). Now in November, I'm really motivated, and so glad for that.

I was tired of all the life that was going on and who wants to listen to all that was wrong, so basically that is it in a nutshell. I have finally gotten over myself, I will be checking my email frequently, literally and figuratively (I'll let you in on that one later). I'm working, realizing that my life is my passion, and I'm doing a great job at it, and boy oh boy, I'm happy.

Thanksgiving is right around the corner, and Christmas is a short sprint away. And right on its heels, my anniversary and a brand new year!!! Look out, cause here I come :)

Be Blessed.

In the Meantime

2010-07-26T14:33:00.003-04:00

Yes, I've been away for a very long time. Almost 4 months, 3 and 1/2 to be exact, but who's counting (obviously me). I feel some blog neglect guilt. Although is it really neglect if you just can't get it together? I've got four drafts in my queue, but no finished products. With that in mind, and really wanting to post something, I'll be putting up some poetry for a while. It's old stuff that I happened upon while attempting to declutter. I hope you like it.

Forget

by Shanta Hayes

August 25, 2001

I often forget how gifted I am

how smart and beautiful and talented I am

I often forget.

I often forget how much love I can give

or how much love I need I often forget

I never forget how much love I've received

I never forget.

Until next time,

Be Blessed.

Welcome, Foxylady

2010-03-09T18:58:00.004-05:00

That's what my alumni account page said. Yes, "Foxylady" <- that is my uniqname/login from college. I never changed it, and never will. The name has a lot of sentimental value for me, and I am not at all ashamed of it. As a matter of fact, when I recall why I chose the moniker, it makes me even more steadfast in my convictions to keep it. Granted I don't use it on resumes or the like, but I still get university mail at it.

You see, as a young girl my nickname was "Fox", because I was smart of course. I wasn't really bombshell beautiful but that was never my goal, although being a fox in that respect isn't bad either. So I was always known as "Fox" to my uncle, but I'd always wanted to be a "lady". You know the proper kind, that does things in ways that people today might think a bit odd, but I think quite feminine and intriguing. (So often these days women just flop about any old way and do whatever is comfortable - not that anything is wrong with that, seeing as it is how I go about most days). But I digress, I wanted to be a proper lady; I still do, even more so now that I've talked to an older relative who told me that my grandmother was a real "fox" in her day. As many of you know she was my hero. She always kept herself together, and it was a privilege to see that.

With that being said I (at 17) thought it would be a good idea to be known on campus as "foxylady" a smart, proper young woman.... such naivete. Who knew the Internet would be as huge a thing as it is today and that logins would become synonymous with given names? Definitely not me. I wasn't thinking much further than the next few months. Well now that I know better, I'm still holding on to it. It's a little piece of my history, who I am, and I wouldn't trade any of the pieces of that puzzle for all the tea in China.

Until next time,
Be Blessed.

p.s. I am the happiest alumnus

I Want My Mojo Back

2010-02-24T18:55:00.002-05:00

I haven't written in awhile. My writing mojo is lost and I don't know where to find it. Leave it alone and it'll come home, with lots of stories behind it.

Until then,
Be Blessed.

How I Love Thee, Let Me Count The Ways

2010-02-17T16:14:00.000-05:00

1. You've stayed by my side through every episode.
2. You are super HOT!
3. You love me unconditionally
4. You gave me the most beautiful children
5. You're my best friend
6. You indulge me
7. You excite me
8. You believe in me
9. You make me laugh
10. You are everything to me

I love you so much Michael, and I am so blessed to have you in my life. Happy Valentine's Day babe. You're the best!

Be Blessed

Empathy, A Blessing and A Curse

2010-02-11T19:31:00.004-05:00

Sometimes I feel others pain so intensely it hurts. Sometimes I feel their joy in exponential equivalents. The joy I will gladly take and can certainly tolerate, but the pain, can be unbearable.

Today a friend lost a child. I was all prepared to write about love and how much my husband means to me, then I read the message. It happened that I was talking to my husband on the phone when I saw the news...I couldn't even say good-bye to him.

I wish I could ignore the pain of loss, but it's one of those things you have to face head on, or risk getting wiped out by it in the long run.

My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Psalms 62:7

Be Blessed

Playing Catch Up...

2010-02-08T07:00:00.000-05:00

Can be so much fun. Especially when it's catching up on reading my favorite blogs. Sometimes it seems like I haven't been around in forever, when there are so many entries to catch up on, but it is also usually so refreshing and invigorating.

I love seeing the newest things people are working on and where their creativity takes them. Or getting a glimpse into someone else's life. It's amazing what people are capable of. I little time and who knows what can be done. I've been following Susan's sewing escapades as she prepares for a cruise and wishing my skills were on par with hers. And after checking out Kris' page today, I found myself wishing I'd done more on the girls wall in our house. The murals she did in her childrens rooms are nothing short of AMAZING. And Carolyn has been working on some of the most beautiful mittens while driving 85 miles back and forth to help her dad out. WOW!!! And let's not forget Cathy who is just a knitting machine...she did more in a month than I probably do all year.

I tell you, I am in awe of you all, and enjoy seeing the things you create. Keep crafting and keep posting; you are my inspiration.

Who inspires you? Let me know.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Playing Catch Up...Not A Good Start

2010-02-05T02:24:00.002-05:00

Since we've gotten back home from our holiday, and things have settled a bit, I've been trying to get back into a rhythm and blog regularly. Well it hasn't happened yet, but I'm hoping I'll hit my stride some time soon.

I joined a blogging challenge in an attempt to push myself to write more frequently but to no avail. First my husband went out of town and took the laptop. I've become so spoiled by the convenience of it that I believed myself too good to work on a desktop - ha. That was short-lived. One can check email on a smart phone for only so long before your vision begins to show its age. So although there was access to a computer with Internet there was still much belly-aching about not being able to sit wherever I wanted, when I wanted and type. (Shameful I know, and very unbecoming, unattractive, elitist, and ungrateful).

Back to the main point though. I have every hope of spreading my uniqueness throughout the blogosphere at least three times per week. We shall see how that goes. I may need to re-visit my commitment to the challenge and see what I've actually signed up for. It may have only been once a week. And seeing as that worked really well for me over the summer, it is definitely a trend to consider keeping with.

Thing is when you're coming from behind, it's hard to get ahead; but not impossible. As you all know, where there is a will there is a way, and boy oh boy have I got a will. Now if I could just apply that to finishing all my WIP's I'll be golden. Don't forget every day is a new opportunity to get it right.

Until the next time,
Be Blessed.

Being On The Ball...

2010-02-03T09:29:00.005-05:00

Is NOT easy. Especially if you haven't done anything physical in a week. My fitness goals include me losing 4 inches off my waist by June 1, 2010. In that vein I have a goal to do 300 crunches 3 days a week. Last week was crazy because of girls school activities, etc... I was at a friends house for a playdate, and she had a yoga ball that the kids were playing with (that should have been a clue). I sat on it for a minute and it felt "cool", so I went out the next day and bought one.

I thought the ball would be my new best friend. Boy was I wrong. This little bugger is "the debil" a la Kathy Bates in "The Waterboy". At any rate; I was under the impression that the ball would make it so much easier to get my crunches done and there would be no silly burn granted you do want there to be a burn. I just didn't anticipate the intensity of it. Yowzas!!! I guess I'll give the 300 another try tomorrow, but for the time being maybe I'll try for 100.

Here I come smaller waist.

I May Not Be Smarter Than a ___ Grader

2010-01-25T22:47:00.003-05:00

My husband and I were sitting in bed watching the local school district's Elementary and Middle School Spelling Bee. It was quite entertaining and it was great to see the kids doing so well. We both thought it a bit unfair (and nonsensical) that they combined the two age groups, but I guess they were trying to save money.

At any rate, we actually started watching late in the show, but we were both cruising along...until I got stumped on 'Humorous'. Yep I got tripped up on an elementary word. How embarrassed my mother would be. Or even more so Ms. Beth Abbott-Frey my 11th grade AP English teacher. She drilled us on origins and derivations until we thought we were dictionaries.

Suffice it to say I didn't make it to the final round. They had several words after 'humorous' that stumped me, and shamefully I may have stomped out of the room. Oh well, that's what dictionaries and spell check are for.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

I'mmmm Baaaacccckkkk!!!!!!

2010-01-17T21:49:00.003-05:00

Did you miss me?

Well I missed you all. I really did. But you know what, all that time away was not in vain. I am now officially a college graduate!!! Yeah!!! Can you tell I'm excited?
Graduation day was one of the most disappointing days of my life, but he party afterwards was well worth the wait. Why was it a disappointment you ask? Well my name wasn't in the program, and so I was upset about that. I just kept telling myself that I knew I had fulfilled the requirements, and I was really done. My mom told me pretty much the same thing and so I sucked it up, and put on a smile and went home to enjoy my party. Only, when I arrived and was seeing what the caterer had set up, I was again upset. This time because my name was spelled incorrectly on my cake. ( You can't make this stuff up). Yet another thing to suck up. But the company was great. So many friends and family to share the event with.

That was all great, and we stayed in MI for another week, and had Christmas at my dad's house, and with family. We got to hang out with friends and eat at some of our favorite restaurants. It was great, so when I found out there was a vacation planned, it went right over the TOP! My wonderful husband took me to PUERTO RICO for a bit of well deserved (for both of us) time away. We had a fabulous time, eating great food, laying on the beach, relaxing and celebrating 7 AWESOME years of marriage.
We have of course returned home since then. We hit the ground running, well kinda. I kept Bella home for a few days, and we just vegged for a bit. Lynn and Lani however returned when they were supposed to because they had their awards ceremonies. I have two little academic scholars on my hands, both made Principal's list last semester, as did I :-)
God is totally AWESOME isn't he? Were it not for him, I don't know that we'd be here now. Thank you all for coming on this journey with me. I look forward to being back on a regular schedule. Until then....

Be Blessed.

On The Right Track

2009-07-17T11:54:00.004-04:00

Each day I am closer to finishing school. I wake up and go about my day, and I can see that much clearer myself walking across the stage. There's the cap and gown and black heels, a yellow tassel, and my hair is straight ( I'm guessing because that's the only way it would all fit under the mortarboard without looking cock-eyed). There is a gi-normous grin across my face. This may be the happiest day of my life. (This is of course the vision).

But my life isn't completely wrapped up in school. I still have children and a husband and social obligations. Yes social obligations- Girl Scouts, Mocha Moms, PTA, etc....

That being said, the 31st year has began, and there are goals to be accomplished in said time.

Here is the list for the 31st year:

Write a children's book - Sept 2009
run a half marathon (I know this one's been up before, but really this time, I mean it) - Feb 2010
graduate - Dec 2009
research Real Estate Certificate programs
Find a job in Real Estate (not as a broker/agent)
Open Etsy shop - Jan 2010
Become debt free (again) by June 2010

Optimistic, certainly. Realistic, definitely. Let's get it done. What's your list, and what's your time line?

I'll write my vision for my future soon.

And oh yeah, I got a '100' on my last Sociology exam, woohoo!!!

Be Blessed

Tell Me Something Good

2009-07-09T17:04:00.003-04:00

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Well it seems that since I've started school that the only time I get here is for "Tell Me Something Good Thursday", which isn't so bad, since I keep it nice and lite.

This week, I must say, I have been on pins and needles waiting for Saturday. That's my birthday. I'll be 31. And though I haven't completed many of the goals on my list, but I did start a lot of them, and I'll give myself a little more time to complete them...let's say, by next birthday.

Not to focus all on the negative though, let's recap what I DID do...

read more, when I go to the library with the kids, I try to pick out something for me as well
wrote my plan, my Spanish class actually helped me with this, and each day it becomes even more well-defined
took my first THREE classes towards finishing my degree, so far its looking like 2 A's and a B
completed 1 community service project with the girls
posted here more regularly, not every week necessarily, but better than before
almost finished a lace project, it just needs to be blocked
tried to comment on every comment

Well not a bad 30th year at all. Matter of fact, it was pretty fabulous. I am so blessed to have been here to experience it, even with all its ups and downs. I've had a great life so far, and I'm looking forward to enjoying the next year(s) to come.

Be Blessed

Tell Me Something Good

2009-07-02T17:01:00.001-04:00

My babies are coming home!!!! YEAH!!!! So its only been two weeks, I missed them so. So much so that I'm riding along with their dad to pick them up. Yup, I'm playing hookie from Spanish and taking a little road-trip. Also gonna miss kickboxing, but we're not really on friendly terms right now. (That class is more work than all my academics together, but its good for my health, so I'll suck it up.)

Now during our little jaunt we're going to make a little stop in Cincinnati, OH and check out the National Underground Railroad Freedom Center. I'm so excited about it, and actually had it not been for this stop, I would have stayed for class and waited until the evening to see my beautiful children. However I have missed out on all the "good stuff" with the girls this summer, and I want to share at least one thing with them. To see their faces, (well at least the oldest ones) as they experience that, will be priceless.

I love history, and the fact that my kids like it, makes it even better for me. Two years ago we took the girls on a trip to Washington, D.C., Philadelphia, PA and New York City, because Pooh wanted to see the Liberty Bell. They had talked about it in Kindergarten and she wanted to see "it". Well we had to indulge, so that was our family trip, we did the museums, which they LOVED, and went to the Statue of Liberty, which was super cool too because they got to talk to the Park Ranger and get some history on "the Lady". Oh yeah, you can't do Liberty Island and not do Ellis. We had a fantastic time, and have lots of tales to tell from it.

Back to the really good stuff though: MY GIRLS ARE COMING HOME!!!!

I like quiet, I really do, but the sounds of my girls is music to my ears.

Oh yeah and not to lose the historical tie-in: were it not for The Underground Railroad, The Emancipation Proclamation, and several Constitutional amendments, I might not be able to celebrate this wonderful holiday we have coming up, so everybody have a great 4th of July weekend, be safe and

Be Blessed.

Tell Me Something Good Thursday

2009-06-25T08:45:00.004-04:00

Well as you all know, I'm back in school. The traditional brick and mortar, sitting in class with people 10-12 years younger than me (in most cases). It's a challenge for sure, but I'm getting through, and trying not to complain about it. We're eating more leftovers, and clothes do occasionally sit on the chair for a day or two. Don't worry though the family is not being totally ignored. The girls are still on vacation, and hubby is picking up a great deal of the slack.

And yes there is more good news. I got my first paper back yesterday, and I got an "A". That was a bright spot on my day, because I also had two exams. Both of which I am sure I did well on, one I think I did exceptionally well on, the other, just well,(which in my twisted little mind is a "B" or better). I'll let you know when I find out. Until next time:

Be Blessed

I Love You Daddy!!!

2009-06-21T00:01:00.005-04:00

Each year I struggle at this time, and your birthday and Christmas. I call Darren to see what he got you, or to see if he can give me any tips as to what to get. Occasionally I'll call Eloise to ask her. But every year regardless I struggle. It's the hardest thing in the world for me; to try to figure out what to get for "the man who has everything". Seriously, that's the way I think of you...yeah I know there's the Porsche, but honestly, I could never take away the joy of letting you get that one yourself, I know how much it means for you to get that one on your own :)

I've given the DVD's which sometimes seem silly, because you hardly watch television, always on the go you are, and they are so ~~cheap~~ uh inexpensive, as to seem thoughtless, but mind you, I take great care in picking out films that I think you would enjoy. However, there are only so many Clint Eastwood films around, and I don't really know any other genres that might interest you. As far as the polo shirt I gave you for Christmas, (which you seem to really like, and have mentioned several times) that was sheer luck, and I am thankful for it. I just hate to give the same gift twice, its like I just can't think of anything ~~better~~ else. As if I lack the creativity, and honestly it feels that way sometimes; or worse yet, that I don't know you, but not this time.

This year I decided to "speak to you" from the heart, which sounds trite as I write this, but follow me for a second. All the years growing up with mom, I bought you Father's Day cards and never mailed them, (I'm a horrible pack-rat as you know), and I still have many of them to this day. Nope, not another card that wouldn't get mailed. Not this year, but rather a virtual I love you for the world to see what a great dad I think you are.

My heart is palpitating at a break neck speed right now, as I am flooded with memories of my youth. Jumping in the sand at the track (we should have known then long and triple were not my strong suits). Bowling with you and Uncle Larry in California, going to the office in Marietta. I felt so important to you, like I was the biggest part of your world. As I got older though, I felt a shift - I couldn't see (like many tweens/teens) that you were still doing things for me. Incidentally those years REALLY shaped me.

I wrote some of my best poetry during that time, explored our culture more,and become more learned as to the ways of society. I learned new thought processes and considered new career paths. I also learned; it's not always "what you know, but who you know". All children need to see their parents or someone in their family reach after a dream and pursue it with all their might - you did that for me. I saw someone who was bound by nothing, you made it happen. I am so appreciative of that, more than words could ever adequately express.

In more ways than you probably know, you have been a positive motivating force within my life. You have believed in me, and supported me my whole life. You have introduced me to people I never could have conceived the notion of meeting on my own. Exposed me to culture, and the only sport I desire to follow (track and field). You have forgiven me my transgressions and welcomed me into your home. You have loved me, like only a good father can.

I am blessed to be your daughter. My sincerest hope is that I continue to grow into a woman whom you feel is a mutual blessing to you.

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Dropping The Pounds

2009-06-18T08:43:00.002-04:00

Everybody is doing it. I've been saying I was going to do it for a while. But now I really am. I was reading Sapphire's page last night, and going over to MamaLaw, it's all over the place how everyone is trying to be better. Plus, I think hubby is planning a little getaway for us, and I can't have my muffin top hanging out all over the beach, and I am not buying a new bathing suit, when I haven't worn the one I bought 2 years ago.

I've been thinking that walking around campus would help drop some weight, however that takes time (and a lot more walking than I actually do), plus I keep forgetting my pedometer. This Friday I'll start a once a week kick boxing class to supplement the walking. I'll be packing my lunch and not stopping at the wonderful dinner I love so much, because even though they have salads, the portions are out of control and I cannot stand to waste food. Drinking more water will also be on the list. It's actually something I should be doing anyways, but don't.

Last night I got off my perch on the couch and did a few crunches. I could feel the tightening immediately. That was all I did, but it was something. I'll get down and do a few more today, before the kids get back. I have decided that there are things I can do that will make it fun and still be healthy and get the kids in on it too. Like jogging while my daughter rides her bike to her friends house (a mile away), we both get a workout, but more than that we get to spend some one on one time. It's a win win. Plus I'll be around for a long time, because my heart will be so strong, and my blood pressure is good.

I've got three lovely girls, and I want to be around for the long haul. So I'm dropping the pounds and really picking up a healthy lifestyle. I hope you'll join us.

Be Blessed

HawthoRNe...Tonight!!!!

2009-06-16T09:05:00.005-04:00

I recently had the chance to preview TNT's new drama "HawthoRNe" and I think its something you might enjoy as well. With the void in medical dramas left by "ER", I believe this will hit the spot.

HawthoRNe is a new TNT drama starring Jada Pinkett Smith as Christina Hawthorne, a headstrong yet compassionate nurse. She leads a team of dedicated nurses who give their all for the patients, even when the system does not.

Christina will often sacrifice her own needs as she juggles her personal life and the demands of her career. But Christina is more than a nurse – she’s a fighter, a mother, and a friend – she’s every patient’s hero.

Don’t miss this compelling new drama from Executive Producer Jada Pinkett Smith, Tuesdays at 9/8c, only on TNT.

Watch a preview of HawthoRNe

Find out more about the series

I Need A Housekeeper...But Not As Bad As This Person

2009-06-14T23:08:00.004-04:00

I've started school again, and whew...it can take a lot out of you. I'm so tired by the time I get home we're lucky to eat. I'm trying to keep it healthy, but who knows how long that will last. The housework has gotten a bit behind as well, but hubby's been a great help, especially since he has been doing a lot of jobs for me, and not complaining about it. With all that in mind, I've been thinking that a housekeeper wouldn't be a bad thing. However its not in the budget right now. (I could probably make it work, but it's not a priority yet).

This person however does need some help. Please view at your own discretion the following photos. I received them in an email from my husband with this text.
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HOUSEKEEPER OF THE YEAR NOMINEE !?!?!

Remember when you last said to a visitor "sorry about the mess, I haven't done my cleaning yet today! Well, you'll never say it again after seeing this!!!

By the looks of the stained couch cushions, my guess is that she didn't move very far from here...

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This is an actual apartment..found in Houston after the evacuation for the hurricane.

This is NOT hurricane damage....The apartment was found this way prior to the hurricane. Hard to believe there wasn't a fire with all the cigarettes.

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Did this woman ever hear of an ashtray? Nope..... Empty soda cups will do, thanks!!

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All the Febreeze and Clorox in the world is not going to help this mess!

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NOOOOOOOOO not the computer!!!

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Notice the small 'butt free' area around the bottom of the mouse where her hand rubbed the mouse pad and what keys on the keyboard that where used.

Here come the gross parts...." (Seriously, you may not want to look at these)

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"I am sure she had intentions of cleaning, but probably put it off till tomorrow.

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I don't want to even think what that pile on the sink is.

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So, after looking at this, it is safe to say that your house is not so bad after all..... "

Alright, hope this makes you all feel better. I've got more studying to do. Until next time,

Be Blessed.

For Me?...Oh You Shouldn't Have, But I'll Still Take It

2009-06-13T18:44:00.012-04:00

Wow! I am in total awe. I have been given an award. WOOHOO!

Sapphire, over at Resplendent Life gave it to me. Oh how special and loved and READ, I feel. It's really a great honor.

And to "Pay it Forward" I'd like to pass it on to a few of my favorites. (Although this is one of those super sweet "no strings attached" type blog awards). Aren't those just the best? But because I love you all so much, and want you to feel the love and joy like I do, here goes.

Sarah over at the Bubbly Bunny is like Wonder Woman to me. She's a mom, and she is super crafty. She bakes, knits, reads, breeds rabbits and all like MAD! She's doing at least 3 52 in 52 challenges. Yikes! I need her energy, but until I get get some in a bottle, I'll just have to read about hers.

Susan at Knitter's Delight, is a fabulous seamstress. Um, yes she does knit, but sewing has taken over for a time and I love looking at her FO's and getting ideas for things.

Cathy resides at Wishing I Was Knitting At The Lake. She is just a great all around knitter, fabulous daughter and super mom. I so want to be like her when I grow up.

Jennifer over at Notes From the High Country is really exciting to me, as she appeals to my "nature girl" side (which is pretty much all of me :D) She has some wonderful pictures of the Washington wilderness, and ocassionally some good travel spots.

And last but definitely not least, the ladies over at MamaLaw. Justices Jonesie, Ny and Fergie are always good for something; be it a laugh, a product review, or great advice. You'll love them.

Now that I've shared my joy, you all

Be Blessed.

You Must Go Over To Skinnykids

2009-06-04T09:45:00.003-04:00

She is an absolutely hilarious blogger. Today just happens to be her Featured Blogger debut on SITS, and really it's a great break. Here are links to her featured pieces:

Just another "They owe me" story

What a girl wants

and His first story

I hope you all enjoy.

Be Blessed.

I Knew It....The Speculum Was Invented By A Man

2009-06-03T08:39:00.006-04:00

Yesterday I had my annual exam, and there is something about that time that makes me sooo uncomfortable. It's just contradictory to the way I was raised "Keep your skirt down and your panties up". The whole "just relax and let your knees fall apart" is not as easy as it sounds. Really, who cares that you're a professional, and you do this to several women a day, (hmm thinking of it that way doesn't make me any more comfortable).

The worst part though is that dang on duck billed piece of equipment that they use. Seriously, could it be any more painful? Maybe you like that, but on my very sensitive parts, I don't like to clip things that "may cause a little pinch". That phrase right there makes me wonder if any of my doctors have ever had their own exams. Little pinch my behind, humph.

There must be a better way. A speculum invented by a woman perhaps? Well a girl can dream.

Be Blessed.

Who Should I Call...Sears or Ghostbusters?

2009-06-02T09:13:00.003-04:00

The light went out on my clothes dryer last week, and I figured I'd just have to replace the bulb. Well a week later, and I still haven't done it. So yesterday I'm drying some fabric, and I realize I need to change the temperature setting. I crack the door, which usually causes it to stop, but not this time, so I opened it all the way, This is what I saw....

Tell me what you think I should do.

Be Blessed

Let's Go Out To The Ball Game...Or Not

2009-06-01T09:08:00.007-04:00

Forwarding…

http://www.atlantaonthecheap.com/2009/05/28/reminder-kids-day-at-turner-field-1-braves-tickets/

Reminder: Kid’s Day at Turner Field & $1 Braves Tickets

Posted on | May 28, 2009 |

You’ll find a lot of Braves ticket deals here. Don’t forget these cheap days:

1) Sunday, June 7, is Kid’s Day at Turner Field. All upper level tickets are just $5 each for kids 14 & under. Plus, admission includes a free trip to the Braves Museum, free games in Scouts Alley, & the chance to run the bases, announce the starting lineup and play ball call. Oh, and it’s Bat Day, which means the first 15,000 fans receive a free bat.

2) Monday, June 8, is Dave Ramsey Dollar Night. All upper reserved tickets, normally priced at $8, are available for only $1 online or at the Turner Field Ticket Office.

Turner Field is located at 755 Hank Aaron Dr, Atlanta. 800-326-4000

–Jennifer Maciejewski

This is an email I received from my Mommy group. Great news right, I think so. Especially considering I just told my husband the other day, that we should take the girls to a baseball game, since the girls and I read "Mama Played Baseball" during our Read All Day time on Friday.

Well this is the first message I open this morning, and I call hubby during his commute time to share this kismetic type fortune. What is his reply? "The girls won't be able to see in those seats." Well really, I don't think our girls are all that interested in baseball anyways, but as long as their sight is better than mine, (and I know it is), they'll be able to see just fine. Besides its not about seeing all the action, its about being a part of it, and experiencing something that they read. I didn't explain that to him, so I may have to call him up and plead my case again.

Please feel free to take advantage of this offer.

And don't worry I'm not too hot. I was trying to hard anyways. My mom wants me at her church on Sunday for a program, and that Monday is my first day of classes, so I'll probably be too tired anyways. I just really want to cram as much ~~cheap~~ inexpensive fun into this summer as possible.

Be Blessed

Tell Me Something Good

2009-05-29T11:21:00.001-04:00

This post is inspired partially by Sapphire over at Resplendent Life. I saw the quiz after the fact and thought it was really cute. However this is what preceded my reading of that post.

As many of you know, April and May were off the hook over here. With two kids having birthdays in April, a recital the first weekend of May (and all the rehearsals that go along with it). In addition to Girl Scouts, school exams and a traveling husband...needless to say, it was hectic. And in the world of La-la (also known as my home), where children are prone to the notion of parity; when one does something, so do the others.

Well Bear and Bella got to see "Monsters vs. Aliens" with their Mimi, while Little Buddy danced the first night of her recital. So of course she wanted to go too. Well being the fantastic mom that I am, I told her, I'd take her to see it the following Saturday. Well that was the weekend of the infamous "How did we get sick concurrently bug?" I'd done something with someone that morning, ( oh yeah hubby and I went to the movies), but when we got back Little Buddy was sleeping and had a fever. No movie Saturday. Sunday was the "Mommy had a tantrum Mother's Day", so no movie then either of course.

The next weekend rolls around, and for some reason this kid is taking a nap again, and I have learned over the years to "Respect the Nap" (borrowing a phrase from MamaLaw). Sunday we forewent church (Hubby's back was out, still no excuse for me and the girls), and Little Buddy and I finally made it to the show. We were a few minutes late, but she was okay with that (how understanding). We enjoy the film which went by way to quickly, then per her request we went to the playground in the mall, bought some lip gloss and perused magazines at the book store.

After we left the mall, and were on our way home, I said "Tell me something good" ( I ask them this all the time, heck I ask hubby). I'm expecting "oh I had fun at the movies", or "I like my new lip gloss" something along those lines. Do you know what my angelic, baby-faced, child told me? "Spending time with Mommy."

I could have shouted from the rooftop "I have the most wonderful child in the world" However doing so while driving would have been difficult and very unsafe. I am so thankful that I got to spend that time with my daughter. Just she and I, bonding, building a relationship, and memories to last us both a lifetime. I am blessed beyond measure for those words, and they are kept in my heart, (for me to remember when she's 13 and I want to pull her hair out by the roots).

Seriously though, that day will always be special, and I don't think any words could top those "spending time with Mommy". I love you Little Buddy. Let's have a rockin' summer.

Be Blessed.

And The Prayer Beads Go To...

2009-05-28T09:15:00.004-04:00

Y-O-U!!! That's right everyone is a winner here. At least everyone who commented on the contest. Thank you ladies so much for coming by and showing me some love.

Lisa, over at Another Day Today, was the first to saunter on over, and she became a follower. B, who is now running her own super funky digital giveaway over at Simply B, Simply Me. Sarah whom has been a follower for quite some time now, and LOVES my music playlist. You can catch Sarah over at The Bubbly Bunny. The Jewelry Rockstar showed me some love, and I checked out her designs, I think you should too. And to Suzanne in rural Ohio, whose profile is not public, and therefore I cannot link to her, you inspired me, thank you.

And don't think that I'm giving everyone Prayer Beads, because I'm indecisive, (maybe I am, but whatever). The whole point of them, is to share my faith with other people and what better way to do that than to give them to all who have seen and liked them.

Winners, please send me an e-mail with your address. Thank you.

Be Blessed.

Happy Memorial Day - Thank You

2009-05-25T10:33:00.004-04:00

Today is not just a day to pull out the grill and hit the beach or have a day off school or work. It's a day to remember the fallen soldiers who served our country. We give honor and pay our respects to all the men and women who gave their lives fighting for the freedom of our fellow U.S. citizens, and others all around the world.

Being a former military "brat" (USMC, ooo rah), I would also like to pay my respects to the families of these fallen soldiers, and say Thank You for supporting your loved ones when they make the decision to protect and defend the rest of us. Were it not for strong military families all around the world it would be even more difficult for our loved ones to go and put their lives on the line. Thanks for your support!

Happy Memorial Day!

Be Blessed

Pick Me Up...Please!!!

2009-05-21T15:36:00.004-04:00

I have been anxiously awaiting word from the Spanish department, at the school I will be attending this summer to finish up my degree. I have been waiting because I took an online placement test to see what class I should take, although I already know what I NEED! However, the school was steadfast in its decision to have me follow their rules. O.K. (Well of course I wasn't happy about it, but I did it.)

Today I get the news that according to my test results, I am "overqualified", and they are not ALLOWED to place me in the class I NEED.

Hearing that I was crushed, there I was worried, I wouldn't do well enough, and it turns out, I'm too good. Well not me actually; you see, I prayed with my husband before taking the test, and he continued to pray for me while I was taking it. (Isn't he wonderful?) At any rate, it was brought to my remembrance that God will reward us beyond our expectations. The God in me shined, as he should, letting me know he would never leave me nor forsake me.

However I wasn't seeing the light at first. I saw it as a blow, a step back, but a friend kindly put it into perspective for me, by reminding me that sometimes we take a step back only to change direction and go further forward. Another friend reminded me, that being "overqualified" means I can only go UP. Thank you Ladies, I love you, because you have turned my face in the right direction.

Sometimes we need our friends to lift us up, and turn our heads to the light, show us that "silver-lining". My girls picked me up, right when I needed it, and I am thankful to them. Here is something that another girl friend shared with me, and I though that a lot of us could stand to hear it as well. Enjoy and as always,

Be Blessed

Use What You've Got, To Get What You Want (Its A Give Away)

2009-05-20T08:16:00.007-04:00

Oh, get your minds out of the gutter. I'm a "lady", (here anyways). Just kidding, I always exercise decorum, so much so that my husband says I need to "let up" (but that's another post).

Back to business though. I've had the proverbial "Aha moment" as Oprah likes to call it, but long before her, people called it the "light bulb moment". At any rate, I had one, and I think its just genius. Well it's pretty dang cool.

Remember when I was begging for people to come over and read my blog, "oh woe is me, I have not readers", and I mentioned how people have sponsors and they do contests and give away cool prizes. Well woo hoo for them, but look at me, ooh ooh, I have stuff too. DUH. I make jewelry, or at least I like to try to make jewelry, but I value sleep too much, and the children and husband need so much, and did I mention sleep. So I don't get to make as much as I would like, but I do so enjoy it. I do get commission work, which pays nicely, but I have something on my heart that I would just love to share. My Prayer Beads.

The concept formed when I wanted to do something nice, for someone whom had done a kindness for my mother. After hearing that she performed such acts of kindness to ease the pain of dealing with her own grief, I wanted to share my faith with this woman, and encourage her. I knew that she prayed, but I did not know what her faith was. I researched Rosaries and their history and religious significance, but decided against making her one, especially not knowing if she were Catholic or not. I came up with my own design, based on my own study of the Bible and some creative license.

The Prayer Beads are all built the same, with one exception. There are 12 smaller beads to represent the 12 tribes of Israel, and the 12 Disciples, and three larger beads to represent the Trinity. The one exception is that a person may choose to put a cross or a crucifix as the anchor. The crucifix of course as a reminder of the great price that was paid for us, and the cross as an equally impressive reminder of our faith.

Prayer Beads are an excellent way to share your faith with others. They make thoughtful gifts for the bereaved, or newly engaged or married couples. I always explain my faith to people as I give the beads and that I will be praying for them, continually.

This particular color pairing was my husbands idea, for his own Prayer Beads. The Black and White, represent the darkness and the light, and how God will always bring you through, when you ask him in prayer. "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving let your request be made known to God." Philippians 4:6 NKJV

Prayer Beads are an excellent way to share your faith with others. They offer the beautiful sentiment of prayer to be shared. For children and adults alike Prayer Beads make a wonderful Easter gift. They serve as a reminder of the true gift that was given to all by the sacrifice that Christ made.

This is what I've got. What I want is more readers. So here's how it will go. I'll run the contest for a week. All you have to do (hehehe) is leave a comment on this post. To get another entry go over to my website and look around and leave another comment here telling me one (or more) thing(s) that you liked there. To get another entry, go through my archives and tell let me know what you think about this here blog (be prepared, it's a real hodge podge of emotions). An additional entry can be gained (we'll count this one as two) if you become one of my 'Faithful Readers' b.k.a. "Followers". The winner will be randomly drawn from all the comments that are received, and followers.

Well I don't think that is all together too much, but it may be too little, I don't know, I've never done this before. So say a little prayer, and maybe it will be you that wins :)

Be Blessed

Common Sense In A Box

2009-05-17T01:27:00.003-04:00

So this package arrives the other day with my husbands name on it. I put it on the desk and think nothing of it. Later that evening, we're talking and I ask if he ordered anything, because a box came for him. He chuckles and tells me to go get the box. I do, and at that time read the label, it’s from his job. This time I laugh and ask 'Is that our personal family dose of Tamiflu?'. See, hubby works for a pharmaceutical company.

While I appreciate the sentiment, I'm not sure it's a gift I really want, but it's not like I can send it back. Guess I'll just have a good laugh. This of course while we continue keeping a safe personal distance, washing our hands frequently, coughing into our sleeves, and staying away from those we believe to be infected.

Be Blessed.

Mothering

2009-05-12T12:25:00.006-04:00

My darling Little Buddy took this picture of me on Mother's Day. One in my opinion that didn't start off on a very sophisticated note, but ended well. You see; I was under the misguided notion that Mother's Day was all about ME! Wrong... You see what it's really about is the collective. (Yes, very Borg I know, but follow me for a second)

Friday morning I'm at Little Buddy's school for "Muffins for Mom"; a great little event to honor moms for all their hard work rearing the best children possible. Well my baby just did not want to leave my side, but as I was talking to another parent about something very important (cough, cough) I kept encouraging her to go back and do her morning work. Well finally it is time for me to leave, and my baby girl touches her throat ever so elegantly and says "Can I go home with you? I have a tickle in my throat." Uh yeah right. Another mom chuckles, because it looks as choreographed and rehearsed as the latest blockbuster movie, and I say no.

I run the remainder of my errands without losing my mind, because this entails me taking my sister to get the remainder of her things from her dorm room. (How does one accumulate so much stuff in 9 months, in a room smaller than my bathroom?) I digress. We get her stuff, and I get plants from IKEA for my Girl Scout project on Saturday. We make it back home in enough time to have a small snack before the girls get home. Yet while I'm eating my sister points out that one of the birds "might" be dead. REALLY?

I can't leave a dead bird in the cage, because her companion is flipping out. Kevin is all fluffed up, and pacing the cage. He's a wreck. And I can't let the girls see a dead bird in the cage, they would freak out. (Not that they didn't do that anyways when I told them the case). Definitely should have gone with the hide and deflect until hubby could sneak in with a new one (just kidding)--kind of. You try consoling three little girls over the lose of a parakeet, with no cause of death. (Yes my girls wanted to know). So Friday is rough, but almost over. Thanks goodness High School Musical 3 arrived that very same day. However later that evening, who's basically coughing up a lung...that's right Little Buddy.

Saturday starts out normally. Nothing big, just a Girl Scout meeting, and then an afternoon date with hubby, drop sis off at the metro station and take Little Buddy to the movies. Yes, all feasible with some finesse. Hubby and I make it to the show, even though scouting ran late. Got sis to work, but no movie for LB and I because she is asleep; with a fever. In addition my baby Bella is now running a faucet down the front of her face.

Fast Forward...early Sunday morning, 1:30 a.m., Bella knocks on the door, "I can't sleep". I get up and walk her back over to her room, and tuck her in. Repeat this process 3 more times over the course of the night, culminating at 6:00 a.m. when I fly out of the bed in a rage, saying "THIS IS MOTHER'S DAY, I SHOULD NOT BE DOING THIS!". I walk to the door, and put my hand on Bella's back to escort her to her bathroom, and she is burning UP! My baby is sick, 102 degrees, and all I could think of was myself. Shameful. I am put in check. I come back to my room humbled. I lay down, and prayed that each day; I am a better mother and wife, than the day before.

You see Mother's Day is to honor all our hard work as women influencing the lives of other people. That work is constant, non-stop, never-ending; so just because a day comes around that honors me, doesn't me that I have the day off. Besides, when I gave birth to those children, I told God I would do my very best to take care of them. Being selfish is no way to accomplish that feat.

Mothering is so much more than giving birth; it's the nurturing and supporting, the occasional indulging in fantasy, or feigned illness. The calls, the letters, the well-wishes and good advice. Mothering is loving.

So to all my Aunties, girl-friends, sisters, the women who help me to love my children into the best possible people they can be; Thank you for accompanying me on this journey of Mothering.

Be Blessed.

p.s. Now you see why I was sick yesterday.

Sick And Tired

2009-05-11T11:31:00.003-04:00

Unfortunately, that is what I am today. (I know better than to eat after my children :( ). That being said, I'll get back to you tomorrow about "Mothering".

Hope you had a great Mother's Day, celebrating with the ones you love.

Be Blessed.

If You Type It They Will Come

2009-05-06T22:34:00.012-04:00

Umm, not really. My number of "Faithful Readers" b.k.a "Followers" has increased, and for that I am happy. I had my greatest growth during my Reclaiming the Home Daily Blogging Challenge, back in February and March. Since then I've garnered a few new readers, but I'm not posting great numbers. Don't get me wrong, I love the readers I have, I'm just greedy. Shameful I know. Especially considering the fact that when I started the blog there was no follow feature, and I wasn't concerned about who read it, or what they might think. But give a girl a taste of the limelight, and look at what you get.... a DIVA!

Now there are so many ways to give your readership a boost. Think contest, with, comment, here, "Tweet" me, add me, etc.... you get the idea. I don't have sponsors, so I'm not hosting any contests, and I took the Ads off my page, because they weren't generating any revenue, and they really aren't all that attractive. Besides, I want people to come back for the content, the dry humor, the honesty, the realness of the blog. I want them to like me for me. Uhhh...really I'm not vain. I'm just extremely competitive. Which may explain where my children get that particular trait from.

I feel like Veruca Salt, and like her, I have no shame and will unabashedly ask for what I want.

"I want more followers, I want them NOW! I want short ones and tall ones, I want them ALL!"

So in an effort to increase my readership, I've joined a group. (See whenever one of you reads my blog and leaves a comment, I go over to yours and read it, and add you, and in doing so, I see all kinds of other blogs, that I like, so I add them. In all this reading and adding I have come across a great site that encourages just this type of viral networking and it appears to work without me having to "Tweet" anything; (which is good, because I'm still on the fence about Twitter--do I need one more thing to update?)) Anyway, I digress. The name of the group is The Secret is in the Sauce. I highly recommend you go on over and check out the Featured Blogger for the day Interstitial Life. She's quite funny and generally a pretty quick read (a bonus if you cruise the boards like I do).

And I would be remiss if I did not send a shout out to Sapphire over at Resplendent Life, who was the portal that has lead me to some many of these great sites. Thanks!!!!!

Make You A Priority

2009-05-01T10:35:00.003-04:00

With adulthood comes responsibility, and with that comes the need to prioritize.  I realize I have not been putting things in their proper place.  I'm not sure what did it, but I have been shown the  light. I have not been caring for me.

My gym membership has remained active, though I have not been in over a year, and I've neglected my hair, and forget my nails.  So often we put ourselves on the back burner saying  'that's no big  deal', or 'I'll get to it'.  STOP!  We must realize that our bodies are temples we should honour and care for.  It is essential that we make taking care of ourselves a priority.  Drinking plenty of water, eating well, exercising, doing  our hair and nails, and dressing to accentuate our forms are key.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating dressing for 'Glamour Shots' on a daily basis, but rather trying to live healthily and comfortably.  And we are best at that when we feel pretty. We can't run  ourselves down in efforts to keep the rest up.

Be Blessed

Lynn's Birthday dress

2009-04-30T09:16:00.005-04:00

Today is my darling girls' eighth birthday.  She loves pink and green, and both her grandmothers are AKA's so I'm sure they'll love the dress as well.    God blessed me so abundantly with such a sweet, even tempered child.  He knew what I could handle, and he gave me just what I needed.  A beautiful child, constantly asking questions, and creating  things.  So intelligent and super duper special.    I've got to go now and finish getting our picnic ready.  We're going to the park to enjoy this wonderful day.    Be Blessed

A Wonderful Life...Today's Testimony

2009-04-29T08:54:00.009-04:00

I totally had an idea for my topic today, but as soon as I sat down to the computer, ~~(I started reading some of the blogs I follow)~~, I totally forgot what I was thinking. I can't seem to recall it, and since I am on a time budget today, this has got to get done now, or never.

You see, I told my baby girl we were going to have a good day today, and she promptly replied, "have fun?" to which of course I replied "yes!". As the summer draws nearer, my time with my children is dwindling away, as I will be taking classes, and studying, and therefore probably less likely to have all the fun I normally do with them in the summer. Fortunately though, we have great family that takes them in the summer, so they won't be totally missing out on fun.

The girls will gone for about three weeks, maybe more depending on if we get any extra "takers". I know that I am extremely blessed to have such family members that want to spend time with my children. That are able to spend time with my children. That are alive.

I very much wish that my grandparents had gotten to see my children, or that my husbands father would have lived to see the girls grow up. He was FANTASTIC with them, and me. He was so much fun, and full of energy (when he was feeling well). And boy could he cook, and bake. I miss him dearly. My own grandparents would have further instilled the traditions that I hold close to my heart in the girls, the old ways. A slower lifestyle, simple things...gardening, listening to the rain, sitting in a quiet house, and playing outside.

The way I am living my life now, is because of the way I grew up with my grandparents. I like to think of it as getting back to basics. I remember working in the garden with them, and climbing trees in the yard, exploring, playing with my cousins, feeling the sunshine on my body. I had a great life. All my life has been great because I remember that foundation of a stellar childhood.

Really, when I think back, I have had a wonderful life. I have been blessed so exceedingly by the people in my life, that I can look back, and knowing that there were bad times, instances when I felt wronged or mistreated, and I can still say, that my life is great; my life has been great up to this point. God has cared for me and shown me his love through all the people he has placed in my surroundings.

Sometimes when we lose someone we love dearly we wonder how we will get through it. I am alive, and very well, and therefore proof that it can be done. I thought I was going to die, when I lost my grandmother, and I very nearly accomplished the task, but God sent so many people into my life to carry me through. My heart is bursting as I think of all the people that have held my hands in one crisis or another, and I am still here. The tears that are in my eyes are ones of joy, because I know how much I am loved, and have been my whole life. I am very thankful for this wonderful life that I have and I will continue to try to live it in a way showing my great appreciation for it.

Okay that was not what I sat down to write, but that is what obviously was in my heart. I wish you all a very beautiful and blessed day. May the Lord bless you and keep you always.

Be Blessed

Under Construction

2009-04-28T13:19:00.008-04:00

For those of you who may not have noticed, the site has undergone a bit of a face lift. I am trying to tidy it up a bit, just as I have been my home recently which sort of explains the absence, that and a fast approaching ballet recital for Little Buddy, birthday party for Bella and Girl Scouts, you know, "LIFE AS I KNOW". It's been a constant bevy of activity, and I suppose I wouldn't have it any other way.

What I know for sure today though, is that I will get the layout the way I want it, and I'll get back to posting on a regular basis. Until then, please be patient with me, and I'll be back soon. Until then...

Be Blessed.

An Hour Gone

2009-04-06T22:22:00.004-04:00

Definitely not wasted, because I learned quite a bit, but gone nonetheless. I follow several blogs, and I generally catch up on my reading when I log in to post myself. Well if there has been a lapse between post, catching up on my following can take a good bit of time, hence the hour gone. I don't mind though, as it leaves me feeling more like an insider and less like a voyeur into the lives of my blogosphere friends. I am delighted to see the new puppy that Sarah has, and the great prizes that Heather won. My heart is warmed to read about Abbi's accomplishments, and how a mothers love will help a child blossom. It's also great to hear the wonderment of a group of Boy Scouts on a trip to one of our magnificent National Parks.

In essence, I enjoyed an evening with friends, without having to combat the weather or traffic. I'd say that is time well spent today.

I'll talk about King Tut tomorrow.

Be Blessed.

Ready For A Break

2009-04-02T20:34:00.003-04:00

March proved to be a busy month, with very few breaks, and almost non-stop blogging. I'm tired, but there is no rest for me just yet. I'm chaperoning a Girl Scout Brownie sleepover Friday night, and hosting a baby shower on Saturday afternoon. I have the prizes for the games, but I have yet to finish the favors. Rolled sugar cookie cut-outs of umbrellas and baby bottles.

Once Saturday evening hits though, I'll be home and can relax. Monday is the beginning of Spring Break and we're going to see King Tut. Woo hoo!. We've got a few play dates planned, but for the most part just kicking it at home, and enjoying some time together. Hopefully the weather will be nice and we'll get to go to the park a few days.

Well I'm losing all train of thought (that and I still have 2 dozen cookies to bake) so I'm going to sign off now.

Be Blessed

FO Friday, Maybe That Could Be A Theme

2009-03-27T15:24:00.006-04:00

So this week has been a little crazy. Not really, but just a little hectic. I have finished the gift for the birthday party we are going to on Sunday. It was something quick and simple, well simple at least. I did it on the loom, but it probably would have gone much quicker had I just done it on the needles. I do like the way it turned out though and will definitely make another.
This is Nyla's Birthday Shrug.

The following is some yummy yarn that I will be test knitting a project on. I will post picks of that very soon.
Well I hope these pictures leave you feeling warm and fuzzy. I'll talk post again soon.

Be Blessed.

Weekend Update - Black Marriage Gala Photos

2009-03-25T00:54:00.016-04:00

It was a busy one. With Little Buddy having two-a-day rehearsal on Saturday and Hubby not getting back in from his business trip until 7:30 that morning, I was running. That and I really hate putting in zippers and hemming, so my dress was finished around 8:45 a.m. But I made it. I got Little Buddy to both rehearsals, did my nails and packed my overnight bag. I also picked up my little sister from the transit station as she was the babysitter. I did have to order dinner, because I forgot to take something out to prepare, but everyone is still alive, so no problems there.

Then we were off, although I almost forgot our tickets, and told Hubby the wrong hotel, which meant we went a different way than we normally would have. The rest was just a ball. I had a fabulous time, and can't wait for the next occasion to celebrate, I may or may not make the dress :)

Behold pictures from the Mocha Moms Black Marriage Gala 2009.

Behold the infamous dress. The topstitching was done in pink as a contrast and to bring the pink in the godets more into the composition.

My fabulous husband and I. Doesn't he look handsome.

""It is important for us to recognize that we have been blessed with the beauty of marriage and to promote its benefits for ourselves and our children, particularly in the black community," says Dee Dee Jackson, national president of Mocha Moms, Inc.

National President Dee Dee Jackson and her husband cutting a rug.

Some of the Mochas in the chapter I belong to. South Dekalb, GA

Some of the Mocha husbands.

Black Marriage Day was started in 2002 by the Wedded Bliss Foundation, a national non-profit organization that serves families and community groups, promoting healthy relationships and healthy marriages. Last year, Black Marriage Day was celebrated in the black community in more than 250 cities across the U.S. Its goal is to highlight the benefits of marriage, pay tribute to successful marriages and promote marriage in the black community.

"We are thrilled to continue the tradition of honoring Black Marriage Day," says Jackson. "Black marriages are not only alive, but flourishing."

A snapshot of Black Marriages

The mission and purpose of Mocha Moms, Inc. is to support and encourage women of color who are making parenting a priority in this season in their lives. Its platform includes strengthening marriages and families, promoting self-care, strong educational foundations and volunteerism. Today, the fast growing national, non-profit organization has more than 100 chapters in 27 states throughout the country. Mocha Moms, Inc. welcomes people of all genders, religions, races, educational backgrounds, and income levels. Anyone who supports the mission of Mocha Moms, Inc. is welcome to join. Mocha Moms, Inc. has been featured on NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams, ABC's Nightline, Good Morning America and The Oprah Winfrey Show, as well as in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, Essence, Ebony and JET."

quoted text taken from: http://www.blacknews.com/news/mocha_moms_inc201.shtml

FailureTo Deliver On Time

2009-03-24T12:30:00.005-04:00

Does that sound like reasonable grounds for termination of a contract? I would like to think so. That in addition to the lack of performance by my "smart phone" have led me to rethink my relationship with my cellular service provider. My phone rang today, and I missed the call, as I was otherwise engaged, so I figured it would go to voicemail. A few moments later, I hear said voicemail tone, and a few moments after that I actually check the phone to see who called and to listen to the message. Well strange thing is the call and the voicemail were from two, yes 2 different people, on two YES 2 separate days. Excuse me, do we not pay for a prompt and expedient service, you leading carrier of mobile services? So why then are you failing to deliver my messages on time.

The first call was from a friend whose wedding I'm in at the end of summer, so I knew there should have been a message, but there was none. I listen to the message that was there, and it was from this past Saturday when Little Buddy had class and rehearsal an hour apart on the same day. (Getting ready for Easter). What in the world? At first I'm listening to the message thinking is everything okay, did I miss something, were we supposed to have practice today, and then it dawned on me, its the middle of the day, on Tuesday no less. So I look at the time date stamp and it says March 21 1:42 pm. What?! So I call the wedding friend, and leave her a message trying to find out what's going on, and when I hang up from that call....a voicemail notification....from none other than wedding friend herself, from half an hour earlier.

Seriously. We have been loyal customers for the past 10 years, and this is how you repay us. Hubby's phone died on him, losing all his information, and all they do is send out a refurbished phone, no offer of tech support to try to recover the lost material. A refurbished phone...ugh, oh yeah, we just got these phones in November. Me and my "smart phone" having self, ha! I have to delete older events to make room for the new, because of some arbitrary code that was written in, even though my settings say I have more than enough memory. I am becoming increasingly disenchanted with the service that we are receiving with this company and am happily looking forward to the day our contract is over!

Don't get me wrong. These are not the first instances of dissatisfaction, it just seems that each new incident is increasingly more frustrating than the last. These are customer service issues, and they are not taking very good care of there customers, and in my opinion that is the fast road to "out of business". If I were to fail to deliver a piece of jewelry on time, there would be consequences, if a baker failed to deliver a wedding cake on time the same would be true. Why then does the big conglomerate not have to adhere to the same rules of society? Have we become complacent with our standards, and just allow anything as long as there is some type of service? If that is the case, we are truly all to blame for the current economic state.

We as consumers have rights, granted the big companies usually trample all over them, and squash any who would dare come against them like little bugs; we still have rights. It is how to exercise them most efficiently that we must learn. What if that call (or more accurately, lack thereof) had cost me a client? Honestly I don't think they'd care, and that's a serious problem. When you fail to resolve, my problem as your customer, you begin digging your own grave.

Where's The Dinner Smell?

2009-03-21T09:55:00.001-04:00

"I'm hungry. What's for dinner? Hmmm, where's the dinner smell. Mommy are you going to cook, or are we going to order pizza?"
"Neither, we're having leftovers."
"Aww man."

Aren't kids the greatest? See lately, I've been cooking dinner around noon-ish, so that its one less thing I have to distract me while the girls are doing their homework. I can give them (Little Buddy) my undivided attention while she tries to maneuver the world of Kindergarten mathematics, spelling and reading.

Here are a couple of dinners I prepared earlier in the week, that didn't take much time and can be done with ingredients normally in the pantry.

Here we have a traditional cornbread stuffing with yellow corn and grilled chicken breast with white gravy sauce. The cornbread looks dark because I sweetened it with molasses. Other than that its seasoned in the traditional way with sage, poultry seasoning, a little salt, pepper, and a can of cream of chicken.

And above we have a Turkey Faux Stroganoff. This was made on the fly with some leftover ground turkey from fajitas the night before. I really wanted stroganoff but realized I didn't have any sour cream. So I improvised. I used a can of cream of mushroom and added to that a cup of heavy whipping cream which had been infused with a tablespoon of lemon juice to make the "sour" effect. There were also some grilled onions in the skillet, and I added the noodles later. I should have thinned the sauce a bit more, as it was a bit thick for my taste once it was combined with the noodles. All in all though it was really good, and I can't complain. Hope you enjoy. If you'd like the recipe just drop me a comment.

Be Blessed.

Drink More Water.... Please?

2009-03-19T15:01:00.003-04:00

I'm trying to get my kids to drink more water. I think its a healthy option and they don't need a lot of sugary drinks, not that they get very many. Although when I give it some thought, that syrupy thick concoction they try to pass off as a juice drink during lunch frightens me. Be it known, I am easily frightened,( I dilute juice at home, everything but orange). I haven't used Kool-Aid since I was a kid, not that there is anything wrong with it, and I always prepared it according to the package directions, so it didn't taste the same as the stuff at my friends houses (they used more sugar). To each his own.

However, I still want my children to drink more water. It has been a struggle, because certain people don't want to follow the rules, and get all huffy when you try to enforce the law. (Five year old's, the nerve of them). So today, I bought us all these little water bottles. That way I could lead by example. The new rule is we should all drink at least one bottle a day, preferably 2 for the kids, and 3 for me. Hey I have my own issues with water, and yes the container only holds a whopping 18 ounces, but that is better than the 8-10 I've been getting.

I figure a few more swigs of water per day, should help me feel more rested, less hungry and over all a little healthier. So maybe you should drink more water too...please :)

Be Blessed

Pulling A Most of the Nighter

2009-03-18T21:01:00.010-04:00

~~Clean the Kitchen~~
~~Cut out Brown fabric~~
~~fold girls laundry~~
clean bathrooms
baste pattern pieces together
make 1 baby hat
~~study a little more~~
~~clean out DVR~~

So I've got a few things I need to do before my head hits the pillow tonight. Of course I should have done these things earlier today, but I was truly lacking motivation. It was a really pretty day today.

Out The Window

2009-03-18T17:37:00.007-04:00

This was a terrible week to start a new schedule; there was too much out of the ordinary stuff going on. Like the Girl Scout meeting on Monday, and the PTA meeting (with extra long program following) on Tuesday. In addition, I am trying to make a dress for the Mocha Moms, 2nd Annual Black Marriage Gala this weekend. And although I had chosen a pattern and material earlier, have changed my mind here in the 11th hour.

I will be completely altering the pattern. I have already washed the new fabric, and cut out parts of the other fabric that I was going to use, the pattern is cut and the alterations to it have been made. I have materials for earrings, if not a few of the design I want in my workspace. The shoes and wrap are already in my closet, and I'll be doing my own hair. All in all this is going to be a very low budget, high class affair. (If I do say so myself).

The reason for the frugality, is my pledge to myself that I was going to try to make more things this year. It was pertaining to gifts, but this is a excellent opportunity to express my creativity and save a ton of money. We won our tickets at last years gala, and the fabric and the pattern, came from my stash (my guest closet houses, my machines, several containers and overflowing baskets of fabric, and file boxes of patterns and notions). As some of you may know, I make jewelry and I happen to have some gold wire and pink quartz from a design I did a few years ago for the American Recording Academy.

All in all not so bad. I will cut out the rest of the pieces tonight, and baste them together. I will do all the stitching tomorrow while the older girls are in school. I'd really like a dress form, especially to help with the hemming, but alas, that is to be longed for yet a while still. (More to come about that). But for today, I studied Spanish for about 2 hours, did some laundry and worked on the dress, not to shabby, but next week will definitely be better.

Be Blessed

Alert! Alert! Wonderful Yarnie Goodness Giveaway

2009-03-17T16:56:00.004-04:00

You know you want it. I sure do. Oh that beautiful yarn would be so lovely, I would learn to knit socks just to have some in that lovely, yellow and blue colorway. Its called Starry Night. My favorite though is just a shade darker and called Scorpio, some might think its the same, but the subtle difference is what makes it super cool.

And by the way the contest is really called the Knit Witch Wicked Fun Giveaway go check it out on Knit Purl Gurl's blog. There you can find all the rules for entering. Its really fun, and even if I don't win, I've been turned on to two new blogs, and yarnie goodness. Life is GOOD!

Okay, I've got to go, it's PTA night.

Be Blessed

New Schedule Issues

2009-03-16T22:40:00.006-04:00

Yes, its only been a day, and yes, there are already problems. What was I thinking? There is absolutely no craft time planned in at all. Way too much study time, must schedule in time for knitting. I've got cooking, laundry, floors, girls homework time, but no knitting, no jewelry, no reading (other than schoolwork). Where was my mind? In that time and place where I had no hobbies, didn't know what fun was, and lived in the library and coffee shop (and not just hanging out there, I was a barrista).

There would also be a great deal of time lacking for Grey's Anatomy and Dancing With The Stars. Shameful. Now I cannot look at the surgically altered bodies, that though they claim to never have danced, sure pass mustard, (most times at least).

I'll alter the schedule and let you know how it works it. Anythings got to be better than it is now. I'll talk to you tomorrow.

Be Blessed

New Schedule

2009-03-15T23:02:00.003-04:00

Since I will be going back to school this summer after a long absence. I have began to study so that I can prepare myself for what lies ahead. I always did my best work when I developed a schedule and stuck with it. Being a mom though has taught me that there are of course "little" standard deviations that may occur. However, I am going to try my very best to stick with the schedule I have created. Although I am already behind, because I should be showering in the next three minutes, and in bed by half past the hour. Like I said I am going to try my very best. I was thrown today, as....blah, blah, blah...no excuses. I will do better tomorrow.

I know that I am capable of great things when I put my mind to it, and am disciplined. Therein lies the dilemma, I have not been so disciplined in years. Argh....I've got to get back into it. So that being said, I am going to shut it down here and go get ready for bed. I've got to start somewhere. Until tomorrow...

Be Blessed

A Few Extra Hours....

2009-03-14T22:42:00.004-04:00

..in the day, would do me just fine. Or maybe not. I think if I did have more hours, I would waste them, and not be as productive as I claim I would like to be.

But to wax poetic and all...

I should like to spend lazy days playing in the grass with my daughters, throwing footballs and flying kites, and calling races. Pitching softballs, and catching Frisbees. I should like to have a picnic in the park on a blue blanket and go paddle boating. Or maybe walk over a bridge at sunset and cry. My oh my the beauty of a memory. However fleeting it may be, the joy it brings could last an eternity. Making Icebox Lemon Pies, and yeast rolls from scratch, showing my girls how to knead the dough for biscuits so they don't get too rough. Laying on the bed on a rainy Saturday and reading a book, or playing Memory. My oh my what a life I lead. It is truly a blessing.

I would hope a few extra hours would afford us time to have breakfast as a family again. Real breakfast, homemade french toast, just sliced strawberries, freshly whipped cream, and eggs, turkey bacon, orange juice, and coffee. Not Cheerios, or Life (had did it get that name?). I would hope a few extra hours would turn into more time to cuddle, and not just more time to do MORE stuff.

Since I know not, but have a sneaking suspicion (sospecha), I will be content with the time I have and just try to use it a little more wisely. I hope you will do the same. Until next time...

Be Blessed

Staring At The Wall

2009-03-13T17:06:00.005-04:00

That's what I spent several minutes of my day doing on Thursday, after I applied for graduation. This was of course after I cried. I have tried several times in the past to go back and finish school, but something always came up. I guess I was supposed to have this journey for a reason.

Now that I am ever so close to seeing my dreams realized I am overcome with emotions. I have waited so long for this, now just a few months more of hard work, and I will be done. I will have my college degree. I just have to find the perfect spot to hang it. Hence the staring at the wall. I thought about putting it between two of the girls framed pieces of artwork...but I don't want to overshadow their accomplishments. I checked out the adjacent wall, but it doesn't seem big enough. The opposite wall is covered by a bookcase and the other adjacent wall is basically all window. What a dilemma.

Regardless of where I put it, I know that I will be very excited about earning it. Sometimes I think we appreciate the value of things a little more when we have to go on a journey to get them. This has definitely been a long and winding road for me, but I can see the bright lights of the arena ahead of me, and I am oh so happy.

Double Knitting

2009-03-11T14:01:00.007-04:00

So now that we know that knitting may lead us to greater mental health in our "golden" years. Let's do more of, learn a slew of techniques and never forget a thing! <-- I got a little excited there, but no worries.

I've been interested in Double Knitting for awhile now since I saw an episode on Knitty Gritty, oh I guess about 5 or 6 years ago, when it came on at a relatively decent hour. There was a lady, I can't remember her name (of course - I stopped knitting for a few years, so the mojo didn't take effect), and she was working a scarf using the DKing technique. I began making one as well, but put it down, and when I picked it up again, the method did not come back easily at all. I finally finished it up last summer, but not necessarily to my liking, but that in and of itself was a blessing, because I saw something else it could be :).

So with that in mind, I have been perusing the Internet today looking for Double Knitting tutorials, there are a multitude of them, but I needed to find one that suited my particular learning style. There are actually two; The first really struck me as simple, which is always desirable for me, the simpler, the better. The second one, was the way I had seen on KG oh so long ago, and I'd like to give it another go. Either way, I hope that you will give DKing a try if you already haven't, and if you have let me know some of the things you've done, how you like it, and what you find helpful.

Be Blessed