Monday, October 31, 2011

The Shit a Good Christian Woman Can't Say

Take the title for example, that is ABSOLUTELY NOT something that any good, God-fearing woman should be going around saying.  However God knows my heart, so he is aware of the fact that some people get on my last good nerve and the only way I can get over it is to CURSE (or cuss if you're the south) the HELL out of them. (Though you know I only curse in private - right).  Seriously, why else irritate such a good upstanding woman as myself to the point that I can't even pray to ask for the right spirit to deal with you.  



You are obviously unaware that many a good Christian woman has a razor-edged tongue that we pray constantly for God to bridle so that we might be good reflections of him.  Sometimes though that prayer is uttered in repentance because we are human and we do fall (the key is in getting back up).  Can you tell I haven't done my devotional this morning?  Let me get to that now.

Dear God please forgive anyone that I have offended by my humanity.  Amen.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Monday, October 24, 2011

What Do Your Children Think of You?

Many might say it doesn't matter to them, but they're probably lying.  Most parents at least hope their children think well of them, I know I do.  I no longer have to wonder though.

Fortunately for me my daughters Social Studies teacher had them do an assignment on world leaders past and present, (uh no, I did not make THAT list), then they had to list someone they know personally that they thought of as a leader.  Guess who got picked?  And yes, I have a slightly swollen ego because of it...Heck I'm a Home Based Mom, I'm competing with engineers and entrepreneurs and Directors of Fortune 500 companies (yes in our family).

So not only was I awed, but humbled as well, because I feel like my children -at least one of them- knows my worth.  I am blessed and highly FAVORED.

#10 blows my mind, especially after having seen the movie "Courageous".  You should definitely check it out.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Your Marriage Is Important to Me

Life is full of challenges and ultimately the decisions we make regarding these situations determine if we'll make it through.  Curve balls are thrown and feelings change, friends and lovers grow apart, schedules get more hectic and life happens.  Through it all you need to make your marriage a priority, not just the marriage, but the relationship you have with your partner.  Taking time to talk with them, have fun together and to nurture one another is essential. But what happens when neither of you feel like working on it, you're both so tired, or so fed up that you can't or won't take the time to look at your relationship to see where work could be put in?  That is when you need friends, specifically married friends, who want to see your marriage succeed.  Like minded people with similar goals generally tend to support one another and encourage positive outcomes in others lives.

Earlier this year, I was getting ready to attend a marriage gala and I offered a friend and his wife tickets to the event, however when I finally reached him, he told me they were separating that very week.  I was sick, because the reason given to me was "I fell out of love with her".  Seriously?!! I was hurt for her as much as him.  There were some extenuating circumstances, but with friends and counseling the events possibly could have been prevented.  I made it known to my friend that I thought he should take some time and try to work on his marriage, but he was pained and not open to the possibility of reconciliation.  This is an old friend of mine, I've known him longer than my husband and he is honestly one of my oldest and dearest friends, which is why I was so hurt.  Over the years, we haven't made as much time for one another as we used to, so we don't talk like we once did, so I didn't know the ends and out of his marriage, nor he mine.  However I felt, had we been more open to one another as couples we could have helped each other avoid the pitfalls we found ourselves in.   The same is true of all marriages, and I am fortunate that I have friends that believe the same thing.

Our marriages are not important to just our families, but for our childrens' future families.  What chance do they have of keeping a marriage together if half the ones they know of personally end in divorce?  And I'm not talking about divorce due to abuse, I'm talking about the "irreconcilable differences" and the "I fell out of love with them" splits.  Marriage takes work, and there are days when I have to work super hard to stay with my husband, because though I may love him, he sure can get on my last nerve, and I know the feeling is mutual.  My sister  wives have had experiences that I may not have, and they are able to share with me from their experience, and I can share from mine.  The key element of it all is SHARING.  We cannot be ashamed of our circumstances, or  timid in creativity for keeping our marriages whole.  Please know that your marriage is important to me, even if only for selfish reasons...It might save mine...or my child may marry yours.   We have to work together to keep our marriages strong and I pray that you take me seriously and become a friend of your friends marriages.

Back to my friend and his wife.  I had told my mother about this friend, because she knows him too, and in my mothers fashion, she summoned him.  She declared they were to have lunch because she needed to talk with him about this decision, (my mother divorced my stepdad 3 years ago), and she had her own insights to offer.  Well upon my delivering this message for her, my friend informed me that he and his wife were going to attend counseling.  I felt like this was a win... a small battle, but a victory none the less, and a "W" is a "W".  I'll take it.

If your marriage is in trouble, reach out to a like-minded friend whose marriage and yours are a priority.  It may make the difference of your life.

Until next time,
Be Blessed