Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Fighting the Fever

So Christmas is almost here and I'm excited that my kiddos will be out of school for a few weeks. However I wasn't expecting that break to begin a week (or more) early for them. What has happened you ask?

Well, the little one had a fever last Thursday...you know the kind that they wake up and its a 100._ and well that's the "you can't go to school with that temp" speech; only to have said child enjoying a morning of preschool television on their favorite channel. Rinse and repeat on Friday. Saturday is great minus the allergic reason (the child with "no" allergies) has to Ibuprofen, because she's not feeling well. Sunday I take the oldest to a birthday party they were all invited to because middle and youngest have fevers, and well the swelling still hadn't gone down from the previous days reaction.

Come Monday morning EVERYONE has a fever...all three girls, the trifecta. Never has it happened before. Today is only Tuesday, but it feels like it's been a week. It doesn't help that now I have a tickle in my throat, and a slight temp. Or that I'm the room parent for the oldest class and the winter party is Thursday - and I haven't finished shopping for it :P

I'm fighting fevers with all I've got, minus Ibuprofen or red dye. I pray my babies get well soon, and I ask you to do the same.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Making Time

In the words of the famous Ricky Bobby, "If you're not first you're last". For moms this is the absolute truth. Make yourself a priority.

Often we are juggling so many things at once, that if one falls, we feel as if the whole lot will coming crashing down. However, we must be mindful that one missed appointment, event, does not a complete "hot mess" make. Sometimes dropping that one ball can be a blessing, it lets you breath a bit because there are fewer balls in the air. Honestly, we could all stand to let a few things drop, just remember not to drop the important ones: family, friends, health, and most importantly YOU! So what if Timmy misses little league practice this week, or John's shirts didn't get picked up from the cleaners, it's not the end of the world.

I am definitely not advocating shirking any responsibilities or reneging on any commitments, but sometimes you need to excuse yourself from an activity. You don't have to be everywhere, doing everything for EVERY event; that is the quickest way to burn yourself out, put stress on your health, and your family.

This year has been rough for lots of people, for lots of different reasons. Unfortunately when times get hard we usually put our own needs on the back burner and this only adds insult to injury. As a daughter/wife/mom/sister/friend/mentor if I don't take of myself, then the people that need me don't get the best I have to give. Admittedly I have let myself go, but I now realize (even more than ever) that I must make time to take care of myself.

The million dollar question though "how do I go about "making time", especially when I'm already booked to the hilt?". Well you have to be very "gung ho" about it, and have a "do or die" attitude; as in "If I don't do this, I will die". In all seriousness death is a consequence of not taking care of yourself, so setting aside time for yourself should be an absolute priority. I understand you already get up at the crack of dawn to get the kids ready for and off to school, then you have your own work, and errands and then the afternoon is here and kids activities and meals...whoa, where did the day go? It went as usual.

Let's take a step back and think about you. As a matter of fact let's start our day thinking about ourselves, in a positive, not vain way of course. Let's begin by giving thanks, right when you wake up (5 minutes earlier). Five minutes alone before anyone can ask for anything "Thanks that I am alive and able to serve those who need me, thanks for my health which will get better because I promise to make myself a priority, thanks for time to myself to clear my mind and start afresh." These few moments in the morning are your foundation, make it a priority so it will be strong. As the day progresses, steal a moment here and there. Lunch time is a great time for a quick workout. Packing a nice healthy meal and snacks is also a way to add time (because you aren't waiting for people to prepare food and bring it out), it can also be healthier. When you're with the kids for activities, find a way to get in a bit of activity yourself, it also makes for great family fun. You could take a walk around the park while Timmy is practicing, (he surely doesn't need you looking over his shoulder). Instead of watching t.v. as a family, read or play games together (uh mental dexterity is important too!). Family dinners are great, just make sure that they're healthy (lifetime eating habits start early, but they can change), we always want to model healthy behaviors.

All the little moments you snatch throughout the day add up, and you'll see changes in your attitude and health if you stick with them. And those around you will see the changes too. You owe it to yourself to make the time to have a better you. Just remember Ricky Bobby and you'll be okay.

Until Next Time,
Be Blessed

Friday, November 19, 2010

Hey Y'all...I'm Back. No For Real This Time, I'm Serious

It's been another __ months since I've posted. But that doesn't matter, I'm back now. I have a desire to be here. I want to write, to let you in to keep you informed. There was just so much going on in my life, that I needed to process alone before I could let it all out. But I'm back now, to shower you with my own special blend of life.

Let's see,the drag started in April wherein events which shall not be named occurred. Then it just dragged into June and the scale of the devil which told me I weighed ___ lbs, which meant a gain of 1o pounds in one year (I've weighed the same thing since 1997, and even when I was pregnant I wasn't this big) Boo... :P We'll skip the mammogram, aside from the discomfort, everything there was fine. Heading into July (my birthday month) and I decide to give blood as a gift...REJECTED...my veins don't cooperate, they collapse ...FAIL. Skip over to September, thank you Primary Care Physician for letting me know my weight is a little concerning, and that my cholesterol is slightly elevated..ick October beckons with the lure of a Zumba infomercial, (I'll let you know how that works out). Now in November, I'm really motivated, and so glad for that.

I was tired of all the life that was going on and who wants to listen to all that was wrong, so basically that is it in a nutshell. I have finally gotten over myself, I will be checking my email frequently, literally and figuratively (I'll let you in on that one later). I'm working, realizing that my life is my passion, and I'm doing a great job at it, and boy oh boy, I'm happy.

Thanksgiving is right around the corner, and Christmas is a short sprint away. And right on its heels, my anniversary and a brand new year!!! Look out, cause here I come :)

Be Blessed.

Monday, July 26, 2010

In the Meantime

Yes, I've been away for a very long time. Almost 4 months, 3 and 1/2 to be exact, but who's counting (obviously me). I feel some blog neglect guilt. Although is it really neglect if you just can't get it together? I've got four drafts in my queue, but no finished products. With that in mind, and really wanting to post something, I'll be putting up some poetry for a while. It's old stuff that I happened upon while attempting to declutter. I hope you like it.

Forget
by Shanta Hayes
August 25, 2001
I often forget how gifted I am
how smart and beautiful and talented I am
I often forget.
I often forget how much love I can give
or how much love I need I often forget
I never forget how much love I've received
I never forget.
Until next time,
Be Blessed.

Tuesday, March 09, 2010

Welcome, Foxylady

That's what my alumni account page said. Yes, "Foxylady" <- that is my uniqname/login from college. I never changed it, and never will. The name has a lot of sentimental value for me, and I am not at all ashamed of it. As a matter of fact, when I recall why I chose the moniker, it makes me even more steadfast in my convictions to keep it. Granted I don't use it on resumes or the like, but I still get university mail at it.

You see, as a young girl my nickname was "Fox", because I was smart of course. I wasn't really bombshell beautiful but that was never my goal, although being a fox in that respect isn't bad either. So I was always known as "Fox" to my uncle, but I'd always wanted to be a "lady". You know the proper kind, that does things in ways that people today might think a bit odd, but I think quite feminine and intriguing. (So often these days women just flop about any old way and do whatever is comfortable - not that anything is wrong with that, seeing as it is how I go about most days). But I digress, I wanted to be a proper lady; I still do, even more so now that I've talked to an older relative who told me that my grandmother was a real "fox" in her day. As many of you know she was my hero. She always kept herself together, and it was a privilege to see that.

With that being said I (at 17) thought it would be a good idea to be known on campus as "foxylady" a smart, proper young woman.... such naivete. Who knew the Internet would be as huge a thing as it is today and that logins would become synonymous with given names? Definitely not me. I wasn't thinking much further than the next few months. Well now that I know better, I'm still holding on to it. It's a little piece of my history, who I am, and I wouldn't trade any of the pieces of that puzzle for all the tea in China.

Until next time,
Be Blessed.

p.s. I am the happiest alumnus

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

I Want My Mojo Back

I haven't written in awhile. My writing mojo is lost and I don't know where to find it. Leave it alone and it'll come home, with lots of stories behind it.

Until then,
Be Blessed.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

How I Love Thee, Let Me Count The Ways

1. You've stayed by my side through every episode.
2. You are super HOT!
3. You love me unconditionally
4. You gave me the most beautiful children
5. You're my best friend
6. You indulge me
7. You excite me
8. You believe in me
9. You make me laugh
10. You are everything to me

I love you so much Michael, and I am so blessed to have you in my life. Happy Valentine's Day babe. You're the best!



Be Blessed

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Empathy, A Blessing and A Curse

Sometimes I feel others pain so intensely it hurts. Sometimes I feel their joy in exponential equivalents. The joy I will gladly take and can certainly tolerate, but the pain, can be unbearable.

Today a friend lost a child. I was all prepared to write about love and how much my husband means to me, then I read the message. It happened that I was talking to my husband on the phone when I saw the news...I couldn't even say good-bye to him.

I wish I could ignore the pain of loss, but it's one of those things you have to face head on, or risk getting wiped out by it in the long run.

My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Psalms 62:7

Be Blessed

Monday, February 08, 2010

Playing Catch Up...

Can be so much fun. Especially when it's catching up on reading my favorite blogs. Sometimes it seems like I haven't been around in forever, when there are so many entries to catch up on, but it is also usually so refreshing and invigorating.

I love seeing the newest things people are working on and where their creativity takes them. Or getting a glimpse into someone else's life. It's amazing what people are capable of. I little time and who knows what can be done. I've been following Susan's sewing escapades as she prepares for a cruise and wishing my skills were on par with hers. And after checking out Kris' page today, I found myself wishing I'd done more on the girls wall in our house. The murals she did in her childrens rooms are nothing short of AMAZING. And Carolyn has been working on some of the most beautiful mittens while driving 85 miles back and forth to help her dad out. WOW!!! And let's not forget Cathy who is just a knitting machine...she did more in a month than I probably do all year.

I tell you, I am in awe of you all, and enjoy seeing the things you create. Keep crafting and keep posting; you are my inspiration.

Who inspires you? Let me know.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Friday, February 05, 2010

Playing Catch Up...Not A Good Start

Since we've gotten back home from our holiday, and things have settled a bit, I've been trying to get back into a rhythm and blog regularly. Well it hasn't happened yet, but I'm hoping I'll hit my stride some time soon.

I joined a blogging challenge in an attempt to push myself to write more frequently but to no avail. First my husband went out of town and took the laptop. I've become so spoiled by the convenience of it that I believed myself too good to work on a desktop - ha. That was short-lived. One can check email on a smart phone for only so long before your vision begins to show its age. So although there was access to a computer with Internet there was still much belly-aching about not being able to sit wherever I wanted, when I wanted and type. (Shameful I know, and very unbecoming, unattractive, elitist, and ungrateful).

Back to the main point though. I have every hope of spreading my uniqueness throughout the blogosphere at least three times per week. We shall see how that goes. I may need to re-visit my commitment to the challenge and see what I've actually signed up for. It may have only been once a week. And seeing as that worked really well for me over the summer, it is definitely a trend to consider keeping with.

Thing is when you're coming from behind, it's hard to get ahead; but not impossible. As you all know, where there is a will there is a way, and boy oh boy have I got a will. Now if I could just apply that to finishing all my WIP's I'll be golden. Don't forget every day is a new opportunity to get it right.

Until the next time,
Be Blessed.

Wednesday, February 03, 2010

Being On The Ball...

Is NOT easy. Especially if you haven't done anything physical in a week. My fitness goals include me losing 4 inches off my waist by June 1, 2010. In that vein I have a goal to do 300 crunches 3 days a week. Last week was crazy because of girls school activities, etc... I was at a friends house for a playdate, and she had a yoga ball that the kids were playing with (that should have been a clue). I sat on it for a minute and it felt "cool", so I went out the next day and bought one.

I thought the ball would be my new best friend. Boy was I wrong. This little bugger is "the debil" a la Kathy Bates in "The Waterboy". At any rate; I was under the impression that the ball would make it so much easier to get my crunches done and there would be no silly burn granted you do want there to be a burn. I just didn't anticipate the intensity of it. Yowzas!!! I guess I'll give the 300 another try tomorrow, but for the time being maybe I'll try for 100.

Here I come smaller waist.

Monday, January 25, 2010

I May Not Be Smarter Than a ___ Grader

My husband and I were sitting in bed watching the local school district's Elementary and Middle School Spelling Bee. It was quite entertaining and it was great to see the kids doing so well. We both thought it a bit unfair (and nonsensical) that they combined the two age groups, but I guess they were trying to save money.

At any rate, we actually started watching late in the show, but we were both cruising along...until I got stumped on 'Humorous'. Yep I got tripped up on an elementary word. How embarrassed my mother would be. Or even more so Ms. Beth Abbott-Frey my 11th grade AP English teacher. She drilled us on origins and derivations until we thought we were dictionaries.

Suffice it to say I didn't make it to the final round. They had several words after 'humorous' that stumped me, and shamefully I may have stomped out of the room. Oh well, that's what dictionaries and spell check are for.

Until next time,
Be Blessed

Sunday, January 17, 2010

I'mmmm Baaaacccckkkk!!!!!!

Did you miss me?

Well I missed you all. I really did. But you know what, all that time away was not in vain. I am now officially a college graduate!!! Yeah!!! Can you tell I'm excited?
Graduation day was one of the most disappointing days of my life, but he party afterwards was well worth the wait. Why was it a disappointment you ask? Well my name wasn't in the program, and so I was upset about that. I just kept telling myself that I knew I had fulfilled the requirements, and I was really done. My mom told me pretty much the same thing and so I sucked it up, and put on a smile and went home to enjoy my party. Only, when I arrived and was seeing what the caterer had set up, I was again upset. This time because my name was spelled incorrectly on my cake. ( You can't make this stuff up). Yet another thing to suck up. But the company was great. So many friends and family to share the event with.

That was all great, and we stayed in MI for another week, and had Christmas at my dad's house, and with family. We got to hang out with friends and eat at some of our favorite restaurants. It was great, so when I found out there was a vacation planned, it went right over the TOP! My wonderful husband took me to PUERTO RICO for a bit of well deserved (for both of us) time away. We had a fabulous time, eating great food, laying on the beach, relaxing and celebrating 7 AWESOME years of marriage.
We have of course returned home since then. We hit the ground running, well kinda. I kept Bella home for a few days, and we just vegged for a bit. Lynn and Lani however returned when they were supposed to because they had their awards ceremonies. I have two little academic scholars on my hands, both made Principal's list last semester, as did I :-)
God is totally AWESOME isn't he? Were it not for him, I don't know that we'd be here now. Thank you all for coming on this journey with me. I look forward to being back on a regular schedule. Until then....

Be Blessed.