Monday, June 30, 2008

Trying To Make A Little Money on the Side...

Well not the side anymore, I moved my ads that were over there. Now they are more strategically placed (in my opinion) beneath my posts. What I'm wondering they actually work. To date, I haven't earned any money from clicks on the ads. Granted you have to generate a lot of traffic to get enough clicks to earn $50 (I think).

What I've also noticed is that most people leave my site via a link to some other site that I have posted. Anyone have any ideas or tips to share about how to get AdSense to work for me? I'd love to hear what you have to say.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

T-minus 13 Days and Counting...

Until my birthday of course. I am so looking forward to it. Can you tell? Well on the 11th I will be 30 years old, and boy oh boy I can't wait. Life is good. I feel really good about it, and can't complain. I've known people where this birthday was a little tough to bear because they feel like they haven't accomplished as much as they should have. That they aren't successful enough, or they aren't where they would have liked to have been relationship wise.

There is only one particular thing that I haven't done, that I believe should have been done by now. But I've made a conscious decision to put that one on hold for awhile. I've got a lovely family, a wonderful husband and three beautiful daughters. I've got great friends and a supportive family. I couldn't ask for more. (Well more yarn, needles and knitting books. I've posted my wish list if you'd like to wish me well :p)

Honestly, I really plan on this being one of the best years of my life. I feel as if I know enough to really call myself a grown person. I've learned a lot, and continue to do so. I don't intend to stop either. I've got a few goals specifically set for my "30 year": 1. I'm going to read more, 2. Run a half marathon 3. take my first class towards finishing my degree 4. Do 2 community service projects with my girls 5. Post at least 3 times a week here 6. Finish a "lace" project 7. Start working on my dream project- writing it all out (making it plain), finding funding for it. 8. Comment on all comments left here.

Well the time between 30 and 31 is going to be very busy, but I'm up for the challenge. Come along with me, as I embark on the beginning of the rest of my life. Every year is only going to get better. Loving life and so excited about how the next year is going to be.

Be Safe.

Monday, June 23, 2008

What A Week

So much has happened in the last week. Boy oh boy have we been busy over here. We finally finished up our DIY projects, and just in time, our guests arrive this morning. Saturday, we took the girls and my nephew to "camp". They are having fun, but I miss them. They'll be gone until the holiday weekend. Before the girls left we went to the library and everybody picked out some great books. I checked out some knitting books, (looking for some quick easy patterns-not that I need any more projects). I also brought home The Notebook by Nicholas Sparks; haven't had much time to read though with all the work around the house. And of course I only got about 5 rows of a dishcloth done, all while waiting in the doctors office.

**Edit: I am a bit daft, as I did not check out The Notebook, that is what I went to get, but it was already gone, so I got Message in a Bottle. Haven't quite hit 30 yet, and things are already getting confusing (hahaha).

Okay here are some pictures:

This is the floor all finished. Teamwork made it go a LOT quicker.

These are the shelves we put in to replace the bakers rack. I think they look very nice and compiment the room very well. They give it an open airy feel.

This was just some randomness I saw on the drive home Saturday after dropping the girls at camp. We are traveling on I-20 going at least 55 mph. And yes that is a man sitting atop furniture on the back of that truck. Hubby said those must have been some expensive mattresses.

Well that's all I've got, I'm beat. Until next time,

Be Safe.

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As a 1930s wife, I am
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I found this on a friends blog, and said what the hey. Well lookey lookey, I'm not such a bad wife after all.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

In Defense Of Self

So for most all my life I have tried to be likeable. I've always tried to be kind, friendly, and to be considerate of others feelings. You know... a real Girl Scout -which I was. I digress. It occurred to me over a decade ago, that sometimes trying to be nice all the time, and make everyone your friend, can make one into a doormat. I found myself apologizing all the time, which in turn made me feel bad like I was always doing something wrong, which I wasn't. I was just trying to appease people, make them not feel bad about the way things went down. I was trying to be the bigger person, but I was actually making myself smaller and smaller and smaller. It was frustrating, and physically debilitating, so finally I spoke up about it, I took a stand, "I'm not saying 'I'm sorry' again". Well there was more to it, how I felt I was always apologizing even when I wasn't wrong, but then it was brought to my attention, that its not always all about me, and saying 'sorry' isn't meant to make me feel bad, and the other person feel better, but rather as a bridge to close a gap on opposing views--or something like that. I've since changed my stance, and I do apologize when I feel I am wrong, and even when I don't, but I want the other person to know that I'm willing to make an effort; put my id aside and bridge the gap.

There have been times, when I have said things out of anger that I knew I shouldn't have said, and when that happens, I try to make amends as soon as possible. I am not perfect by any stretch, I don't even aspire to it. I am simply human, and as such I make mistakes, just like everybody else. It is not my intent to cause anyone else harm - physically, mentally, emotionally et. all. Unfortunately, I have unwittingly caused someone distress, and for that I apologize. I have never meant to cause you harm, EVER.

I aspire to peace and being in conflict with you goes against that. I value my own peace of mind, and I can't have that if I'm ruffling your feathers. The whole situation makes me ill; I can't eat, I'm lethargic, and melancholy, which leads to agitation, and I therefore feel the need to defend myself.

I plead NOLO CONTENDERE; I accept the blame, and I'll pay the fine, if we could just move past this.

Be Safe.

edit: "I'm Sorry" is meant to let the other person know you didn't mean to hurt their feelings.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

I Did That

I finally put my money where my mouth is and did some work on our project. "Our" because I recommended it, and he's been doing all the work. That is until now.

Now I see why people pay professionals an arm and a leg to do this. It looks so easy on all those DIY shows, but they don't show the real work. And although I had knee pads, my toes hurt, and my hands are definitely not as soft as they were before all of this.

Suffice it to say, we'll finish this project, but I won't be clamoring for us to do any more such tomfoolery any time soon (read "ever again").
I'll post more pics when its all done. Until then...

Be Safe.

Monday, June 16, 2008

Breaking up...with a friend, is hard to do

I originally started this post in November of 2006. My girlfriend and I were pretty much over, but I just couldn't let go. She had meant so much to me for so long. She was there when I was having family troubles, all through my first pregnancy, when my daughter was born, she helped my husband surprise me for his proposal, she was my maid of honor at my wedding, she was ever present, always wonderful; until she wasn't.

The signs had been showing themselves for a while, but I was choosing to ignore them, I just didn't want it to be true. How could someone who was such an integral part of my life (knowing all my "issues") leave me? We started talking less, we went from everyday, to every few days, then once a week, once a month, during breaks from school, a year. It was gradual but things changed after I got married. I see her exit as a blessing now, but for a very long time, it wasn't that cut and dry.

For a great deal of time, I tried to figure out what I had done wrong to warrant this treatment, ( it wasn't cold -just abrupt), what could I do to get us back? Nothing. Dwelling on it made me physically ill. At one point I did call out desperately to her, and she reached out to me, because I needed her, but it was the last time, that we spoke. She helped and that was that. Several months later a mutual friend got married and I learned from my husbands best friend (whom she dated for a while) that she was getting married. That hurt so badly that my husband (unbeknownst to me) deleted her number from my phone, as well as her cousins. He didn't want to see me hurt. I love him so much for that.

The breakup with L, as painful and drawn out as it was on my end was the best thing for me. Having her out of my life, allowed me to really fully let my husband into it, and gave me the chance to see him as truly my best friend. That man is such a blessing to me, and at times I couldn't even see that, because of relationships with other people that I were allowing to fog my view. A bit of "can't see the forest for the trees" syndrome. I do owe her a debt of gratitude for that though, because she reminded me of a most important thing.

I can look back now, and I'm not bitter or sad; a bit nostalgic, but that's about it. I loved her, and now I just wish her well.

Wherever you are L,

Be Safe.

Thursday, June 12, 2008


Nova Gorica, Slovenija... that is where my RAK gift came from. All the way across the Atlantic Ocean, in a small country bordered by Austria, Italy and Croatia. To say I was excited about it is oh so mildly understating it. Ecstatic is more like it, considering I picked up the package from the post office as early as I could this morning and headed to the dentist with the girls; where I proceeded to open my package with all the zeal of a child on Christmas morning. I was none to disappointed either when in addition to yarn, there was a post card, a Lavender sachet, and some beautiful purple beads -which I will use to make stitch markers. Oh so loved I am.

Since I opened my package in the waiting area, I of course had to tell the other ladies what all the excitement was about, RAK's, Ravelry, WWKiP (World Wide Knit in Public) Day. It was great, I didn't get any new knitters but it was definitely fun.

Here's what all the excitement is about:

Isn't the pink just lovely. It's 100% mercerized cotton made in Croatia. I've never had cotton made in another country before, except Lily's but that doesn't count, because Canada is right next door, and when I lived in Michigan we drove there often. And I haven't as yet tried Sinfonia which is made in Mexico. No matter, I am totally excited, and very blessed, that yet another person thought about someone other than themselves, and I just happened to be the person they thought of. Yeah!!!
As always,
Be Safe.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Thank God, It's Raining

I know that people in Iowa are tired of water right now, but personally I couldn't be happier for the deluge that is occurring outside my house at this time. Its a storm really with thunder and lightning, but still I am thankful and truly so. It has been at least three weeks since our last "good" rainfall.

This drought has been a surreal experience for me. Its a lesson in poor planning on the states part, lack of conservation on the residents part and an overall disbelief on the part of all parties that our actions has any impact on the environment. There have been times in the past year where I have prayed for rain, circa Noah. No I would not have minded at all 40 days and 4o nights of rain, if it meant that we didn't have the water shortages that we have and it wasn't so hot all the time, and I just got to enjoy the smell of rain. I miss that, honestly I do. Its a fond memory from childhood that I wish every once in a while I could experience. Generally when it rains these days, its a relatively short burst, over and done with quicker than my 2 year olds interest in sitting on the potty.

My garden has suffered this year, because although we are allowed to water personal gardens, I really started off this year trying to use as much reclaimed rain water as possible to give the plants a drink, but with so little rain forthcoming, there wasn't much to give the plants a drink with. So I've been using the hose, but with the heat being as oppressive as its been, many of my plants have become badly burned or just plain tired looking by the end of the day. Its a sad state of affairs. Regardless, I am happy for the rain we are receiving now. My estimate is its been raining for about 2 hours now; that's good for around here. Storm or not I'll take it.

*** We'll be making Ginger Ale tomorrow. Its somewhat a lengthy process, but I'm looking forward to it. We were supposed to start today, but all to late I realized we didn't have a container large enough to store it in. Its experiment 96 in "501 Science Experiments". ( I got our copy at a local Borders in the bargain books section for $7.95) My 7 year old is very interested in Science, so we try to encourage all academic pursuits, and when she saw this book she wanted it, so I bought it for her birthday. I'll let you know how it tastes on Sunday. ***

As for my new widget, the Moms Daily Motivation, well, I like the idea so much to start a notebook for each of my kids, that I did it when they were born. Its really a journal to each of them, letting them know what they're like now, and how much I love them. I write letters at different times of the year, and encourage family and friends to do the same. I want the girls to know that we always thought they were special and there is so much to love about them. In my former years (read teen years), I had so many journals it was crazy, I felt they were the only place I could say how I really felt. I just want my girls to know that no matter what may be said in the heat of teenage angst I have always and will always love them, unconditionally for who they are, and they'll have written proof of that. They are my Love Letters to My Daughters.

Girls so need to be affirmed. All throughout the day, I try to whisper in their ears something special and unique about them. I was much more diligent with doing it at night when they were asleep ( go into the room and tuck them in - again - and whisper three positive things in their ear). I got that from an old girlfriend <- that's another post.

Knitterly wise, Heather has agreed to hold me accountable to my knitting, and suggests I finish the Zig Zag first. I just hope I remember where I left off, and am able to write the pattern correctly.

Well that was a lot not related to rain. Oh well, it worked for me. If you're in Georgia, I hope you are enjoying the rain. I sure am.

No matter where you are or what you're doing:

Be Safe.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Hayessl's Tired

...So my Meez, Hayessl (my sister says "Hazel") is like my alter, she'll do dances and wear clothes that I can't or simply won't have the opportunity to (I'm a little dancing and dressing challenged). But right now, Hayessl is soooo tired. A little case of insomnia, has me wrapped up in its fingers. My little Meez is reflecting how I feel. A good comfy pair of pajamas (of which I have several pair, nice flannel ones, soft cottons, silks, etc...) and a nice soft pillow, but still to no avail, sleep will not come. Why oh why does the Sandman evade me? Who knows, maybe its my diet or the change in my sleeping habits since school let out, or the pain in my shoulder. It could be a myriad of things. At any rate, I'm tired all the time, but can't seem to get any rest. Any suggestions? I'm open to anything.

***Side Note: talking about oneself in the third person is kinda fun.

On to knitterly news; I abstained from buying yarn today (it was a bittersweet incident). I am really trying not to buy more yarn until I have used up a considerable amount of my stash. -I will take donations though - Since I'm in the running for world's slowest knitter, that may take some time. I'm working on that as well. The more I knit, the faster I get (Right?). Oh well, I did finish another little Mini Purse for Lani's friend (tying in to the all handmade gifts for the rest of the year). I am currently monogamously working on the Lavender Sweater. Since I am working on the second sleeve, I should be done with it by July (remember I'm slow). I just have about 4 more inches on the sleeve then piece everything together and finish the neck. It will be my first time, (making a sweater - pullover to be exact) so hopefully it will go off without a hitch. I'm excited to be so close to finishing such a big thing. I'll post pics of course as soon as its done.
Until next time...
Be Safe.

Sunday, June 08, 2008

My Babies Are Back!!!!!!!!

I am so happy. All day I was anxious, and then they pulled up in the driveway. My girls are home with me again. I know they were only gone two weeks, but it seemed like much longer. The last few days were especially tough because I was a little bit manic and everything just seemed a lot worse than it actually was, (which was not at all). UGH!!!! But never mind all that...My babies are back, at least for two weeks, until they are off again to visit more relatives. Then it will be all three of them, but fortunately hubby will be taking time off and some friends from school will be coming to visit. In the interim, I'll be playing chauffeur, taking them to appointments, and playdates, but at least they will be here with me. Please don't think I am totally obsessed with my kids or overly involved in their lives, I'm not, at all. They were vacaying with someone whom I have a strained relationship with, thus making it difficult for me to relax when they are with said person. All in all I'm none the worse for the wear and have exhaled deeply and am grinning ever so cheesily.

***Odd little side note: My seven year old daughter likes to watch "Man vs Wild", but doesn't like "Alaska Experiment", (camping in Alaska for three months is not cool, but eating a zebra is?) Kids these days.

Knitterly wise: I'm in a bit of a funk. I'm a knitting polygamist, having more than one project going at a time, I need to be more monogamous so I can finish something. I have plenty of yarn, and I shouldn't start another project until I have finished one that is on the needles. Who will hold me accountable?
I'm working on (in no particular order) :

  1. SLHayes Zig Zag Scarf

  2. Lavender dishcloth

  3. Bella's Blanket (has a finish date of Christmas)

  4. Baby Sweater -lavender

  5. Mock Cable Sweater (been on the needles for -I'm embarrassed to say)

  6. Baby Sweater - pink

    Oh yes, I'm actually going to attempt to write a pattern (that would be the Zig Zag Scarf), so cross your fingers and say a prayer for me. (hmm that sounds like an oxymoron) At any rate, you know what I'm saying.

Notice my new widgets? I love them, and I see that people other than Heather actually come here. Yeah for me. I think its the widgets. You know the old adage, "if you build it they will come". I guess that's true for blogs to. Make the page pretty, add some content and people will navigate on over. Interesting theory. At any rate, I'm just happy that people are coming over.

But back to what really made my day Super, Ultra, Mega Platinum Bright ---My Babies Are Back

Be Safe.

Friday, June 06, 2008


First off, thank you to the one person who actually reads my blog. Courtesy of the poll over to the right, I am certain that I am truly my biggest fan, and there is only one other soul who cares to read my random thoughts ( I know its you Heather -Thanks :)). Yet that is okay with me because I'm fulfilling a goal of mine just by putting fingers to keys and pushing publish. Yeah for me! On to the news...

Henceforth, now and for the rest of the year... all gifts received from me will be handmade. This is purely selfish and miserly of me, and somewhat agoraphobic. No I don't acutually have a fear of public places, but I don't generally care to drive or congregate in places with a lot of people. Yeah that may sound like an issue, but its not, not really. I just don't like malls specifically, never have, not even in high school. I thought "cruising" the mall was so lame. At any rate, I spend most of my money online, or in JoAnn's. I live five minutes from a mall, but I drive 15 to get to the craft store; I am home there.

So since I went to JoAnn's yesterday and found some awesome yarn deals, (when I only went in for one skein of Bernat's Handicrafter Great Value (for $7.99) which I was then going to use my 40% off coupon for (since I signed up for the mailing list) - that would be the miserly part, then I run into the big bad word: CLEARANCE. I was done for.

Lion Brand Wool .97 cents (what - 100% pure wool for .97 cents). You could've knocked me over with a feather. Lion Brand Cashmere for $1.97 (the only reason I didn't get that beautiful blue was because someone had so tangled the four balls that were left until you couldn't tell where one ended and the other began, (and I don't have a ball winder, nor the desire to try to figure out the whole mess.)) Sugar and Cream Solids for .50 cents, those were of course cleaned out, but its nice to know that they do that occassionally. There were other great buys, but I wasn't interested -well that is not entirely true- I was just trying to stay under $20.

Here is where I must say Yarn is like Crack, especially when its so cheap like that, no wonder people get addicted. Thus the reason why all gifts will be handmade - I have so much crafting stufff that before I can buy more I need to move some stuff out, thus lovely, heartfelt, custom made creations for everyone.

Its super late, and I am super tired and probably making some mistakes, so I will part company for now. Until next time....

Be Safe.

Wednesday, June 04, 2008

Si Se Puede

Well he said he could do it, and he did. Senator Barack Obama garnered enough delegates to receive the Democratic nomination for President. This is one of those times, in my young life, where the question "where were you when_____?" will be relevant. Incidentally, I was talking with an insurance agent about the difference between term life and whole life policies.

I was excited at first, because I'm an Obama supporter, but then I thought of the reality of the matter, and it dawned on me, that this has been a long time coming. (I was an Afro-American and African studies major in college). Historically this is sadly overdue. Had it not been for Jim Crow a day like this could have manifested long ago. Barack Obama is the only African-American in the U.S. Senate currently, and only the fifth since Reconstruction.

The past cannot be changed but the future is surprisingly bright. The dream of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. is looming on the horizon, and is indeed filled with hope. For too long, has race/racism played a role in who can or can't be in, but no longer. The events of the past 24 hours proves that. African-Americans only account for 12% of the population, so to say that Obama won the nomination based on race alone is an invalid argument.

At any rate, this is not a tirade on race in America, but instead a retrospective on just how far the country has come with regard to selecting its leaders. I'm tired now, but there will be more later (maybe). Until then....

Be Safe.