Monday, June 25, 2007

Thinking About My Brother

This past Saturday was my brothers birthday (he turned 29), and he is in Iraq serving his country, just as are many of my other classmates and friends. Saturday morning I lay in bed praying for his safe return home, sooner rather than later, although his deployment has already been prolonged, and this is not his first tour. I pray that I will see him soon and maybe he and his wife will start a family. But who knows. What I do know is that I finally came to terms with the war that we are in and it took a history lesson and some fuzzy math for it to become clear for me. Follow along with me if you will.

I am a Christian. So is "W". Though he lead us there under false pretenses, I believe in his heart he thought he was doing the right thing. He was sending our troops to fight for the civil rights and well-being of the oppressed people of that country. (This may well be giving him too much credit, but this is how I had to rational lie to myself to make things even remotely clear.) Now in doing so, he is taking up the Christian flag and waving it high, as if it were a Crusade, during the Middle Ages. Except instead of Christianity, we are spreading justice, and democracy, because you cannot send a national military of a republic to fight the religious battles of the Kingdom. This of course made much more sense to me on Saturday, when I really needed to justify why we were there, why we went, why my brother is not home.

It stands to be said, that I am a true patriot. My family is military and I support our troops and pray they come home daily. Don't confuse questioning authority with being a Benedict Arnold. However the line is drawn at supporting leadership that is not forthright and honest with its constituents. Saying all that, I still believe this young republic has great potential to be what the founding fathers envisioned it could become. Even if at times it seems to be a direct contradiction of the very values its foundation rests upon it is incredible to see what can become of the world if people open their minds and hearts and embrace God's will. Remember, that is how I reconciled myself to the position we are in.

In my humble, yet accurate opinion, the greatest commandment Jesus gave to us was love everyone more precisely "But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High. For He is kind to the unthankful and evil." It is our commission, to help those in need, no matter who, or where they are; and that is why we are at war. "W" sent our troops to do what we as Christians are supposed to be doing, helping the oppressed. Simple and plain.

Now I hope that no one is offended by what I have said. However, it doesn't really matter to me one way or the other. I just pray that my brothers and sisters come home and that the Lord's will be done.

-Luke 6:35 New King James Version

Friday, March 02, 2007

Loss

There are times, when even "Super Wife" can't do everything. And now is one of those times. My father-in-law passed recently, and my husband has been dealing with it very well in my opinion. I'm trying to be around without crowding him, just to let him know that I'm available when and if he needs to talk. However I cannot be everything, namely in this instance his father.

The other night we were just sitting in the family room, he working on the computer, I rocking the baby; and he says - "I miss talking to my dad, he was really great to talk to." There is nothing you can say in that moment. You can't counter with, "you can always talk to me", it doesn't fit. It's almost trite. All you can do is empathize, maybe offer a hug, and encourage your loved one to remember the greatness in the one they've lost.

The truly frightening thing, is not knowing how to comfort the people you love, when they are in this type of pain- deep emotional strife. There is no "feeling better" at least, not for awhile. Your only hope is that they can get some sleep, play with the kids and see the love around them and not dwell on the pain.

Unfortunately, now this is Life As I Know It.

Saturday, January 20, 2007

I Launched My New Site

Yeah!!!!!!!!!! I finally have my own dot com. Its slhayesdesigns.com, go check it out. I am really excited about the launch. And with Valentines Day right around the corner, it's a great time for it. I am so excited...I already said that, and I'll say it again - I am so excited. Yeah!!!!!!!lol. Seriously though this new website gives my business a more professional web appearance. That hopefully will give business a big boost.