This topic has been on my mind, for quite some time now, and I finally feel it is the appropriate time to talk about it. Success is NOT overrated, just the opposite, it is underrated, undervalued and wholly misunderstood.
In high school, I was voted most likely to succeed, and the picture with the superlative, showed my male counterpart and myself holding up a great deal of money. True be told a great deal of people confuse the accumulation of wealth with success, they think the two are synonymous and they are not. Moreover, over the course of the last few months my definition of “success” has come to exclude money. Don’t get me wrong, of course I would like more wealth, and I am working a plan to attain it, but money will not define my success, nor will it define my happiness, which I believe is directly related to success.
You see, I had so many expectations for myself, that weren’t really my own. Ideas of what I thought success was and what it would take to achieve it, however, I was young and wrong, as are most teenagers. Now I know that success is what I define it as. It is reaching my goals and making my dreams come true and doing what feels right to me without regard for how others may view my decisions.
I have tied my success to the achievement of goals that I have set for myself, not by the attainment of the spoils that derive from that achievement. A great deal of my time lately has been devoted to getting my jewelry business up and running. When I have achieved X, Y and Z related to that I will be crazy happy, I will be successful. Every time I accomplish a goal I make myself happy, and a happy life to me, is a successful life. I have an acquaintance that said, “Life…is only as hard as you make it.” So set some goals and make it as easy as you want to be successful.
In my past I saw myself being unmarried, no kids, “successful” attorney, living in the city. Well that was somebody else’s dream, because the life I am living now makes me happier than I could ever imagine, and yes, it may have been a great life for some, but I would have been miserable, running from relationships with people and hiding behind my work. (Don’t get offended these words are true for me.) See I also believe that connecting with people and touching their lives also makes one successful.
Wrapping it up: I have defined success for myself as, ‘the achievement of the goals I have set for myself, with little or no regard for anyone else’s definition of the word’. I can’t live my life based on what someone else thinks I ought to be doing so I can be “successful”. I am happy. My past dreams are just that PAST. They may resurface someday, but they are not on the paper that hangs on my wall reminding me of what is important to me right now. When we make goals, sure there will be misses, but you can’t focus on what’s not done. Give yourself a pat on the back for finishing the first part and start working on a plan to finish the rest.