Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Successfully Me!

This topic has been on my mind, for quite some time now, and I finally feel it is the appropriate time to talk about it. Success is NOT overrated, just the opposite, it is underrated, undervalued and wholly misunderstood.

In high school, I was voted most likely to succeed, and the picture with the superlative, showed my male counterpart and myself holding up a great deal of money. True be told a great deal of people confuse the accumulation of wealth with success, they think the two are synonymous and they are not. Moreover, over the course of the last few months my definition of “success” has come to exclude money. Don’t get me wrong, of course I would like more wealth, and I am working a plan to attain it, but money will not define my success, nor will it define my happiness, which I believe is directly related to success.

You see, I had so many expectations for myself, that weren’t really my own. Ideas of what I thought success was and what it would take to achieve it, however, I was young and wrong, as are most teenagers. Now I know that success is what I define it as. It is reaching my goals and making my dreams come true and doing what feels right to me without regard for how others may view my decisions.

I have tied my success to the achievement of goals that I have set for myself, not by the attainment of the spoils that derive from that achievement. A great deal of my time lately has been devoted to getting my jewelry business up and running. When I have achieved X, Y and Z related to that I will be crazy happy, I will be successful. Every time I accomplish a goal I make myself happy, and a happy life to me, is a successful life. I have an acquaintance that said, “Life…is only as hard as you make it.” So set some goals and make it as easy as you want to be successful.

In my past I saw myself being unmarried, no kids, “successful” attorney, living in the city. Well that was somebody else’s dream, because the life I am living now makes me happier than I could ever imagine, and yes, it may have been a great life for some, but I would have been miserable, running from relationships with people and hiding behind my work. (Don’t get offended these words are true for me.) See I also believe that connecting with people and touching their lives also makes one successful.

Wrapping it up: I have defined success for myself as, ‘the achievement of the goals I have set for myself, with little or no regard for anyone else’s definition of the word’. I can’t live my life based on what someone else thinks I ought to be doing so I can be “successful”. I am happy. My past dreams are just that PAST. They may resurface someday, but they are not on the paper that hangs on my wall reminding me of what is important to me right now. When we make goals, sure there will be misses, but you can’t focus on what’s not done. Give yourself a pat on the back for finishing the first part and start working on a plan to finish the rest.

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Ding! Dong! Ding! Dong!

Hark how the bells, sweet silver bells, all seem to say throw cares away, Christmas is here, bringing good cheer to young and old meek and the bold. Ding! Dong! Ding! Dong! Merry, merry, merry, merry Christmas.

NO, Christmas is not here yet, for that matter neither is Thanksgiving, but I have that holiday itch; and I am so ready for it to be here that I have envisioned where I will put my tree already and I know what color paper I am going to wrap all my gifts in this year. Yet Thanksgiving is two days away and I have 10 guests coming to my home, and I have yet to prepare.

I am in a place where I can see the forest (the Christmas season), but not the trees. I like looking at the forest; it is beautiful, shining, pristine, full of life, color and love. The tree (Thanksgiving) before me is drab and discolored and full of despair.

Thanksgiving was never really my favorite holiday and at some point in life it became my least favorite, one I actually dreaded. My mother usually had to work, so I was home with my step-dad, who generally slept the day away. That was no fun for me, or any reason to revel in traditions of what I'm thankful for. I was young then. Now I am older wiser and have children of my own. So I do not want to spend this Thanksgiving looking at the forest and missing the tree right in front of me.

This year, I will have a home full of people who love me, and whom I love as well. My husband, my children and my mother will be with my sisters, as well as an aunt, a new uncle, several cousins, my mother-in-law, some friends and me. I am thankful for each of these people, and I love them dearly; but I would have missed the joy of their company for planning the next big holiday.

My tree this year is beautifully colored with the fall foliage of an Indian summer with hues of love and joy and peace bursting forth. I can see it right before my eyes as if it were the only thing, because I have made it a priority to enjoy today right now, and let tomorrows joy come when it should.

Have a Happy and Safe Thanksgiving.

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Myspace Chronicles ED.1

Oh my goodness, its not like it thought...well it is, I'm just not using that part

Yes everyone, I have stepped out into the world of Myspace and I like it. Matter of fact, I love it. I have found so many old friends, people I honestly didn't think I would see again, because we have all moved on in life, from the time and place in which we me. But here I am sharing pictures of my kids and talking about my business to friends from high school and college. I'm even trying to go as far back as middle school, however for some reason I can't find anyone of them. Granted that was over 15 years ago so that endeavor may be something of a long shot; but I'm willing to take it.

I was initially very hesistant about going on Myspace because of all the negative I heard about it, and I was not trying to have anymore of that in my life, than already existed. However one day I was watching a jewelry making video online, and I realized it was on Myspace. Wow! legitimate, professional, non-musicians use Myspace for networking purposes. So of course I signed up. It only took a few minutes to do my profile, and my page was up and running.
At the time I registered, I only knew for sure of one person that I actually knew that had a Myspace account. Well I went to her page and there was another person I knew, and so forth and so on. And their pages were so ornate; and of course I didn't want my page to be the average, cookie cutter, straight out the box, facsimile page, so I did a little research and I changed my layout. It's not as flashy as some, but it suits my purposes just fine. I don't really need too much going on, as it can distract from what I am actually trying to promote, that being my jewelry.

At any rate, I am really enjoying what the site is doing and how it is benefitting me. I am adding more friends everyday, and the more people that see my jewelry, the faster my business will grow.

Tuesday, November 07, 2006

New Format

It’s been a while, I know, and there is no good reason, besides the sad excuse, that I just haven’t made the time. I’ve been working on other projects and haven’t given this one the attention or time it deserves. Well there is about to be a change. Starting this week there is a new format for my blogs. Life As I Know It, will be updated on Tuesdays, Jewelry Lady will be updated on Thursdays, and My Myspace blog will be updated on Wednesdays. Each post will be written like a timed essay. I have ten minutes to complete each article- compose, edit and publish.

This new format will allow me to actually get some writing done. There are tons of topics I would like to write about but between the kids, the husband and the jewelry I can hardly find time for sleep, let alone a blog or three. So a bit of structure is necessary in order to pull it all off.

Topics in the pipeline include an editorial on “The Mommy Wars”, Couch Time, Divorce/Separation, and a whole host of other things I can’t remember, (because they aren’t written down in front of me :)).

Well here is to more posts in a timely and routine fashion, and to me finding a way to accomplish yet another of my goals.